Okay for context I’m 17 turning 18 in two weeks, and this guy is 18 turning 19 in a month. So we went on a date to a show, and it was really really nice. He seemed like he really liked me (he was holding my hand, hugging on me, looking at me a lot and sticking around me the entire time) he seemed SO into me, and it was really refreshing. However near the end of the night one of my friends was talking about how I’m about to be 18 and he got really weird. We went to dinner and he DINED AND DASHED. I texted him and he said “I’m sorry I can’t fw a 17 year old…”
I found this incredibly strange because we are LESS than a year apart, and I am so close to being an adult. I understand personal beliefs and boundaries, but this was just so strange to me. I don’t understand why the under a year age gap is such a big deal to ghost me considering I will be his age in two weeks.
Update/forgot to mention: his friend was there who was 20 (two years older than him) and was originally the one who seemed very turned off by it and I feel like his friend who was way older could’ve gotten into the guys head?
ALSO I had no intentions of being intimate with this guy for the record, it’s been awhile since I’ve had a partner and was just testing the waters. I would never put him in a position to be intimate with me until he knew a lot more about me. Cause that’s where it can get strange
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It’s weird he reacted that way. Some people overthink age gaps, even minor ones.
Free will
Yeah, that’s weird. Less than a year isn’t a big deal, especially since you’re almost 18. Sounds like his problem, not yours.
Well 1 of 2 possibility – 1 you’re under legal age for any sexual activities so he lost interest / 2 he wanted a free
Mean
Um, i do have the exact same age gap in my relationship and we started just your age. The age gap isn’t the problem, he may be lying about his age though. Are you certain he is 18 and not older?
What is the age of consent where you are?
The age gap isn’t the issue… his behavior is. Ditching you was immature and disrespectful.
The age gap isn’t the issue… his behavior is. Ditching you was immature and disrespectful.
Did he know your birthday was just a couple of weeks away?
He has a record?
Romeo and Juliet
He’s not worth the inevitable frustration. If he’s standing you up with the bill now, and worrying over your age right now, he’s going to be potentially abusive down the road.
Relationships are purely transaction. Don’t bother with them, and focus on improving yourself instead.
Well you can’t just find someone who is your birthday twin
That’s what the woke mind virus does to people
Age Gap relationships are common yet the left hate them
The internet brainwashed him into thinking a 1 year age gap is pedophilic.
It’s not a big age gap at all! It’s so much close that I wouldn’t even consider it! The reason he acted like this is most likely because he has this mental block that he must not interact with underage people! Not because of the gap! And that’s his problem not yours!
Lucky escape, find someone mature and respectful.
It’s a him problem. My boyfriend and I had the same age gap back in highschool.
He didn’t care about your age that he knew about prior to the date until after he ate?