Is there any guys who don’t watch porn? Who 100% don’t watch it. I want to be in a relationship, I want to find my person but I can never be with a man who watches porn, that’s a big no for me.
I’m tired of dudes saying they are ok with my boundaries and then doing it behind my back, I don’t want to be with a man who lies to get me, I just want an honest man who truly doesn’t watch it, who doesn’t need to lie to be in a relationship with me.
Is there really no guy like that? I don’t want to have to settle for something I’m not ok with, I don’t want to be unhappy. Is there really no guy who doesn’t watch it? Cause its always not all men but suddenly it’s always “all men watch porn, so either suck it up or die alone” and I just really hope that’s not true.
Should I just give up finding a partner? Is what I’m searching for really unrealistic? I don’t care if people watch it, I’m not trying to put anyone down, I just really don’t want a partner who watches it, and especially not one who says they don’t and lies behind my back.
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I’m going to say no. You need to become the porn star. My ex-wife was like you and hated the thought of me watching porn. So, I recorded us having sex. To be honest i enjoyed watching our videos more than random porn. problem solved.
There must be men in the deep jungle without Internet that haven’t seen it.
Has to be.
Yes there is guys who don’t watch it, I’m one of those. I’m in a relationship with my girlfriend and I have no need for it, but even when I was single I never watched it. Don’t settle for something you aren’t ok with, you have every right to be happy.
Yeah there are some. Usually strict religious guys, or people who learned how bad it can be for you and never took it up, or people who realized they wanted to live in a new way and have/actively are reforming their consumption of it.
But it’s not really easy to find a partner based on this one trait because it’s weird and difficult to just quickly sort through guys with that question before you really know them. Some will lie, and others will feel like it’s not really your business to ask, and others may tell you the truth without worrying too much about it or your opinions of them by being honest with you.
It will be like finding a needle in a hay-stack but you can up your odds by seeking out men from spiritual communities where it’s strictly against that religion, but even then there’s still a chance they are ‘sinning’ despite their religious texts and requirements.
You could try traveling to countries with strict anti-pornography cultures but even there plenty of people may engage in ‘taboo’ activities such as pornography consumption.
You could also join a pornography anonymous group for porn addicts who are really trying to stay abstinent but that’s highly unethical, and honestly probably not a great solution.
While there are people who strictly do not or never have consumed it for a variety of reasons, finding them will be quite challenging and likely very improbable. You might be able to find older men from before the advent of the internet and have greater success there too, but that age difference is a niche that most people aren’t as fond of pursuing.
Good luck with your needle in a haystack hunt. r/pornfree and r/nofap are communities where you’ll find people working hard to staying abstinent, and maybe you might end up finding people you have a lot in common with and really enjoy chatting with on there to start a digital relationship with. I also feel that’s kinda unethical, but it somehow feels less-so for whatever reason. 🤷♂️😅
There definitely are. My husband doesn’t. They’re probably harder to find in communities that are not religious, but they are surely there.
Yes, there is. They’re really hard to find though. I would rather live my life alone than live my life with someone who whacks it to other women. But thankfully my partner is anti-porn, we both struggled with PA as teens.
yea… no. most men who tell
you they don’t are most likely lying to you just to seem like a good man and put up a nice front for themselves, even most religious men do it just try to keep it as down low as possible. i’m not a man so i can’t really say why but it’s like something they just can not do. i think they just want to scratch that primal itch of experiencing multiple woman without the guilt of cheating or being seen as a “man-whore”. i’d rather my man watch porn, i may not like that he does it but it’s better then him paying OF models, asking random woman for nudes or just flat out cheating and fucking any woman they can
I have a fried who doesn’t watch porn and he despises it if anything. He we go out of his way to avoid it or talk about it. So if he’s around I’m sure there’s others
I watched it when I was a teenager, but not anymore, but I’m pretty sure I’m asexual with very little sex drive 😅
Bruh you likely will never meet such a guy, let alone marry him. You just eliminate 99% of your market realistically. Not saying you should settle, but this is a very ambitious goal.
I had two exes that 100% did not watch it. You gotta find somebody smart who doesn’t watch it for the sake of their own brain.
Idk how common this is but I found it extremely easy to stop once I fell in love with someone.
Yes and lot more than people think, because most people think of the media portrayed male which leads to questioning it as “unrealistic” . And the less influenced ones think that it is either some “strict” “religious” man or someone who wasn’t exposed to it, which is totally wrong and unrealistic . Religious people ? probably they don’t watch it, the only ones ? Definitely NOT .
Just know where to look, and it depends on your environment and society, porn is promoted in some places as “preference” “freedom of choice” … i can tell you in some places it is : MUST NOT DO, cheating for married people, Addiction …
Try look in places where it is at least a MUST NOT boundary or look for like minded people, don’t take less, especially with something that is relationship where such sexual activity is considered cheating and trust breaking .
I don’t see it being hard to find a man who doesn’t have a problem not watching it, if he’s in a relationship with someone meeting his needs in that aspect of the relationship. Same if roles were reversed.
Cuz they gave up on gfs, who just randomly hops here nd there. Some are there though, but do not expect much !
I used to but they outlawed wanking in the UK so now I just draw flickbooks of stick figures shagging and use that instead.
im single and dont watch porn im to dam busy lol if i had more time i would also trying to find a girl in chicago
Yeah some guys don’t …
And guys who don’t are usually high energy
Go for it
I mean, do you masturbate? (You dont have to actually answer that), and if so, do you think about your partner every single time? It’s just blowing off steam. Personally, I’m not into porn but I might fantasize every now and then. Also, I 100% LOVE my wife, and she keeps me completely satisfied.
I don’t. Well, I should say that I almost never do. I’m not necessarily against it, I just never really get the urge to look, and when I do, it is annoying because I have to find the perfect one and it’s annoying as hell.
Besides, my imagination is very powerful and I can usually think of something better.
I personally have stopped watching it, too.
I used to watch it as a teenager but felt empty, desperate, and paranoid when I did. It wasn’t like a horrendous addition, but I’d be lying if I’ve said I’ve never watched it and felt lustful urges.
What changed?
Other people will have different stories, but for me personally, God saved me from lust. How? He gave me reasons to love. You can’t defeat lust by fighting it. You have to run from it and replace it with something else, like love and genuine connection. Like with any addiction, you can’t just drop it. You have to replace it with something new that gives your heart something meaningful.
I can understand how unattractive it is, too, and it really just sucks that our generation feels the need to fill a void with it. And yes its obvious to us too.
I admit it is hard when you are single but it is doable.
Of course there are.
My husband for example has never been interested in pornography. Neither have I. Between my friends, it’s a toss-up. Half of them would say yes, half of them genuinely have no interest.
There’s nothing inherently wrong with porn, and it’s fine if it’s fine in your relationship, and it’s also fine if it’s a boundary and it isn’t fine in your relationship. It’s just a matter of finding someone who is on the same page and compatible with you.
And yes, I already see the “lol yOuR HuSbAND iS LyiNG” comments in my future. Spare yourself and me the wasted energy, I don’t care.
There absolutely are men who don’t. I gave it up last year and for the most part put it down for good. I’ve slipped up some, but in general it’s in my past. If I had someone, it wouldn’t even be something I ever thought about.
You’re more than allowed to have a standard. I’m not criticising that. But, you’ve got to appreciate that adult entertainment is everywhere and I’d argue that almost everyone consumes it in one form or another.
It’s not always going to be video. It could be pictures. Or erotica. Online or ai roleplays. I think you’d be hard pressed to find someone that’s never indulged in one of those, including yourself.
Where’s your limit on masturbating? Would your ideal guy be allowed to masturbate on his own using his own imagination? How would you feel if he was thinking about someone other than you as he did it?
Natural Selection has ensured that the men who have spread their seed the most have survived and thrived. You’re not really asking about porn, in my opinion, you’re asking about desire. Men cannot turn off sexual desire for other women. Most men at least. That doesn’t mean they can’t love a woman and be in a relationship, have kids, bond, etc. They absolutely can and I have for 25 years of marriage. But the male sex drive has allowed the human race to survive. Woman have evolved to seek quality in men. In resource-earning potential, in physical attributes, etc. Men who call women “gold diggers” have similar blind spots to women’s needs in my opinion also. Men who earn and are capable are attractive. For good reason, they’re essential to preserving life. If you ask me there’s a lot of beauty in these things and there’s a lot that can be challenging and make us feel inadequate. I’d rather see the truth and try my best to live in it.