I (38F) am single and I currently hang out with my ex (34M). I care for him, but I’ve realized it is wearing on me. I’m not sure if he is overly critical, or maybe it’s me and I can’t do things right. For instance, when I come to his house, I leave the my car keys in the kitchen. He has told me over and over not to do that. One day he got pretty bothered by it, so since then I have been making a real effort to not leave the keys in the kitchen. Yesterday I left the keys in the kitchen again by accident. He says that I don’t respect him because I don’t listen to him. I’m feeling kind of hopeless. What if the problem is me and I won’t get it right for the next person. I feel so alone. Like maybe im always wrong. How do people move past feeling like this? How do you look to your future with positivity? How do I stop feeling so worthless?
Is there something wrong with me?
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Step 1, move on from your ex
It sounds like that is just a habit. If he is getting angry over where u place your keys it is definitely not you. I’m sure there is not something wrong with you.
I mean, you’re hanging out with an ex. That’s never a really good idea.
He’s not being a jerk because you are leaving keys in his kitchen. He’s using that as an excuse to start nothing fights with you.
This is about something else
first of all, he is kinda harsh on small stuff, second, keep distance from him so that you can move on, third, nothing wrong with you, your self-esteem is low because of a person cannot appreciate you
Being bothered by keys being left in a kitchen kinda sounds a little absurd. That’s not something to get overly mad about. Definitely sounds like he’s just trying to pick a fight. Also not a good idea to hangout with your ex, he’s your ex for a reason…