Is there something wrong with preferring older men over younger men? My name is Sarah and I’m from New Jersey. Ever since I was a teenager, I have had a liking for older men, and I often receive criticism for it. While I would like to find love or date someone, I find myself drawn to older men because they tend to treat women better than younger guys. I am hesitant to express my feelings openly because I fear I won’t be accepted once I do.
Is there something wrong with preferring older men over younger men?
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You get to date whoever you like. The only person you have to please is yourself.
No. Just don’t tell that to older women.
Don’t you worry about that I live in New Jersey and I’m an older man and I would like to get to no you text me if you’re interested ok
There isn’t anything WRONG with it but there are some psychological factors to consider if you are only attracted to men 15-20+ years older than you. Being 20 and wanting to date someone like 28 is one thing but if you’re 18 and you want to date someone who is like 30, you won’t really understand that it’s wrong until you’re older.
Basically, it depends on a lot of factors, what you mean by “older” and your psychological state. Many younger women prefer older men because they didn’t get what they needed from the male adults in their life and they are trying to get those unmet needs met.
Consenting adults are consenting adults (though there can be some imbalanced power dynamics if you’re really young and your partner is much older)
It’s fine if you find a good guy but navigating through that can be harder, you’ll have to watch out for men who just want you because you’re “young and hot” if you want something real. Or the ones who will take advantage of age and possible inexperience.
As long as you’re over 18 you can date who you want. Everyone has their preferences and thinks they are right and everyone else should think the way they do.
I would suggest that you should wait until you’re over 21 before you date guys too much older than you, but you can do whatever you want.
It’s not really about being attracted to older men that’s the issue. It’s more the reasons a lot of older men are attracted to younger women. It’s often because of power dynamics or their youthfulness and it gets icky. I think you’re entitled to be attracted to who you are, but you gotta make sure you’re keeping yourself safe from men who just want to take advantage of you. As long as you’re of age, safe, and comfortable, who cares?