I (M18) went to the gym with my friend yesterday since he got a pass and he can bring a guest. I ended up seeing this girl (F19) that we both knew from high school, and we’re all decent friends. We haven’t seen each other since we’ve graduated, over a year ago, but she seemed kinda excited to see me. She said I look “different but in a good way.”
I thought this might’ve been a good sign that she might like me or something. I asked if she’d wanna do something this weekend. She said she’s working on the weekend, but she’s off Friday. I was kinda hoping it’d be just the two of us so then I’d have a good idea of if she likes me.
I asked if she’d wanna do something, and she said “yes I’m down, __ can tag along too since he’s free.” I didn’t mention anyone else but then she said that another friend could come too. I’m guessing this is because she doesn’t want it to just be the two of us, which probably means she’s not interested?
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She’s not interested in going on a date with you
If she really wanted it to be just you two she wouldn’t have built a safety net of extra friends. Go to the hangout but know the truth when someone’s interested they make space for intimacy not excuses.
Maybe for right now – you probably made a move a little too early so don’t feel COMPLETELY discouraged just try to talk to her when you hang out, but if it’s still weird then take a step back
She’s exited to see old friend, nothing more, imo. But how it turns out is up to you. You can always impress her with group outings, and get closer.
Yo,
She doesn’t seem too into the idea of a date right now. But that doesn’t mean you have to give up.
See how things go with this group hangout, and use the chance to show your best side.
She’s interested in “testing the waters”. She wants a chaperone for now. She wants to evaluate you in social situations. She’s not at all interested in FWB. She has areas of intimacy that she’s reserving for long term (probably lifelong) relationships.
Maybe you should feel a bit privlidged that she’s considering you for something long term.