When my wife and I (43M) were trying to get pregnant (8-9 years ago) we had to have sex pretty much every day and eventually like with everything else you do a lot, you find efficiencies. I figured out that if I had a bit of a full bladder (the slightest urge to urinate) that I could finish quick and strong. If you find the right balance, once you get hard, you lose all sensation of needing to pee and all sensation of needing to ejaculate. My wife really appreciated this skill over the years because for a long time she was LL and I could be a 2 pump chump.
I’m worried that I have leaned too much on this trick over the years because last night my wife initiated and I was caught off guard and had an empty bladder and no chance of finishing.
I have zero problem getting hard. I could go for an hour but it doesn’t feel like anything. Just feels like a workout.
Am I overlooking something that could be a problem? Could this lead to ED? Or is this just psychological and I have conditioned my own response?
For reference I do get annual physicals with bloodwork and prostate exams. All good. Mentioned it to my urologist and he was unconcerned as long as I was able to maintain an erection and wasn’t in pain.
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If you’re getting an erection and your urologist is unconcerned with any sort of physiological issue, then it sounds like it’s a head issue. You’ve conditioned yourself a certain way; you’ve got an almost Pavlovian dick response.
Off topic: You have better chances of pregnancy if you have sex every 2 to 3 days due to improved sperm quality then.