My boyfriend forcibly made me touch his penis by grabbing my hand and pulling it and putting it on his penis. My boyfriend forcibly made me sit on his lap while he was hard and I had to tell him 3 times to let me up. My boyfriend pinned me against the wall and wouldn’t let me leave while he kept kissing me even though I tried to move away. My boyfriend kept slapping my ass even though I told him to stop. My boyfriend kept grabbing my face and kissing me and wouldn’t let me leave because he said “ I’m not done with you yet”.
Is this considered sexual assault?
Comments
Absolutely that’s assault, mate. No ifs, buts or maybe’s. Coercion ain’t consent, and constant ‘no’ means you gotta go. Stand frickin’ strong and get help, cuz no one deserves this kinda BS. 🙏 Stay safe.
Yup
Yes, but did you keep going back to him?
Yes. Anything done without your consent is assault. Being in a relationship with someone doesn’t change that fact.
Yes it’s sa absolutely. Leave him and don’t look back
Absolutely. Please get help in getting away from this guy.
Yes, this is sexual assault. If you’re being touched or forced into anything sexual after saying no or without your full consent, it’s not okay. You deserve to feel safe, respected, and listened to always. Please consider talking to someone you trust or reaching out for support. You’re not overreacting.
Yeah that’s sexual assault.
Yes. Even if you were a married couple. You said no. You expressed feelings against said actions. It is assault. He needs to know that. And if he gets angry or defensive, run. He will rape you once married if not sooner. You are not safe with a man like that.
this is SA you don’t deserve that. Leave ASAP talk to someone you can trust because that guy is gross
If you are not enthusiastically consenting and its not some type of agreed upon sex play, then, yes, it is assault. Why do you stay and continue enduring this? Get away from this man
“I’m not done with you yet” is a scary statement, considering you had not provided consent. Kinda says a lot about how he views you…
100% assault.
Yes it is. No means no. Stop means stop. This is not dom and sub behavior bc there are safe words that are agreed on beforehand that cause an immediate stop. This is textbook controlling and abusive behavior. He is leading very, very close to rape. Please leave and get away before he escalates to that.
I need you to reread the key word you’ve been using here, forcibly. If he’s forcibly doing anything to you that you don’t want it’s sexual assault regardless if he is your boyfriend or not.
Yes, it is
I’m sorry you went through that. Please take care of your self
Yesssss
If you say “NO, STOP” and he doesn’t its assault.
Yes
Yes, 100% yes
YES.
Why is he still your boyfriend?
Yes. Especially if you didn’t want it. Break up, report, do something because it’ll only get worse
Dump that one. There’s millions of better options out there
As soon as you said “forcibly touch” it was sexual assault.
100%. He’s a zero.
yes, please get help and leave him
Yes. What an arsehole.
YES & why would you want such an abusive person in your life? Are you a masochist? Your boyfriend has strong rapist inclinations. That’s not a boyfriend. Get yourself into therapy to get away from him and make sure you don’t pull in another one like him.
Being in a relationship doesn’t make this not assault. I had the same questioning when my ex did it to me in high school. It definitely is assault. Anything that isn’t wanted is assault. You expressed discomfort and he didn’t let loose.
Why the fuck are you even with this asshole??
He’s not your boyfriend. He’s your abuser. A predator.
I’m sorry to tell you that it seems that it is.
Yes you need to get away from him. That is not boyfriend material. That’s serial rapist material. Block him on everything. If he tries to bother you again get a restraining order.
Yes
SA for sure , borderline grape. And look…if you aint into that stuff, get out of it. Some people like being treated that way but if it aint you…no reason to keep putting up with it.
Why is this guy your boyfriend? Is he rich or something? Sounds like a loser abuser…
Yes
Stopped after forcibly. To answer your question, yes.
Yes
This is definitely assault. If he’s not aware that he’s assaulting you—- and thinks you’re “playing hard to get” then he needs to be taught some damn manners. I pick the former though.
When my boyfriend tries to get romantic but I’m not in the mood— whether even just making out—- he’ll stop and that’s the end of it. Your boyfriend needs to do the same.
Yes it’s assault
So my question is, why isn’t he your ex boyfriend?
Yes!! Get away before it gets worse
Run girl
Very very much so! Why are you calling him a bf??!!! He’s a predator leave and don’t look back!!!
Never mind your question. My question is, why is he still your boyfriend?
if there isn’t complete and informed consent, it is sexual assault. you said no, he didn’t listen. make him your ex and please be safe.
How old are you?
Absolutely this is sexual assault. Leave this man. (The only case in which it wouldn’t be sexual assault is if you previously agreed upon consensual non consent and set a safe word and you didn’t use your safe word. But I’m assuming there was no discussion of consensual non consent play prior to this)
Yes. Honestly, you should not wait for someone like this to change. Just because you’re in a relationship, even Married, that does not give someone the right to do that. If I were you, i would leave. He doesn’t love you. He lusts you. That’s not someone you want to be with.
Leave this stupid boy! If your trying to leave and he won’t let you it’s absolutely abuse and completely disrespectful to you.
It’s your body and he don’t own it just because your dating.
Things like this only end up getting worse in a relationship if not addressed in the right way.
Each one of these incidents is sexual assault. You did not give prior consent to any of them. Why is he still your boyfriend?
Yes! He sounds so aggressive! Please don’t stay with him and report his ass!
Yes this is not acceptable behaviour.
Dump this guy
I wonder what age you are. If you’re a teen don’t feel this is normal or okay and don’t let it become anything other than abuse. If you’re older try to break the habit or cycle that lets you assume this is in anyway border line. Taken together this sounds a lot like abuse
Yes! It does not matter that you are a couple or not. Anything unwanted is considered assault!
Yes. You need to try to get away from him. I believe it’ll only get worse
Yes.
Yes, it’s 100% sexual assault.
I understand your point of view.. he cross all boundaries you established, but did you talk to him about these boundaries that you set before start this relationship,? Because no many relationships are base in not contact, you are absolutely right.. don’t get me wrong!! But he needed to know so he could choose to be with you and look some that meet his behaviour, and you could established these conditions so he will respect, im not defending such caveman just wondering where and when you guys communicate these boundaries?
Absolutely. This was not consensual, made you uncomfortable, and he didn’t stop explicitly after you asked him to. Run.
Unless this is a kink that you both have talked about and expressed interest in, which it seems you haven’t!, then yes. It is.
Your boyfriend, your boyfriend…
AI advice.
100% you said it yourself ‘forcibly’
How old are you?
He’s an abusive disrespectful pig.
Yes, obviously. Some of it sounds like harrassment, some sexual assault. For example, in Canada there are three levels of sexual assault (3 = bodily harm, 1 = not bodily harm), this sounds like Level 1 Sexual Assault.
Absolutely, just because he’s your boyfriend doesn’t mean he gets a free ride to do whatever and whenever he likes. Maybe it’s time you two go your separate ways. It sounds like you two aren’t on the same page. Speak to him and let him know how you feel and how uncomfortable he made you feel.
Uh. Why is he still your boyfriend?
I’m guessing you just broke up with him or he broke up with you
“considered sexual assault” by whom?
You? – that’s the important question, and, since you’re referring to this person as your boyfriend, in the present tense, that seems to be a no?
The courts? The cops? Also important questions and a lot more complicated.
Society in general? Reddit in general? I’m in USA and that’s a hell yes this is definitely wrong. It’s not the words I would use first, just because of the cops and courts questions. It’s deeply disrespectful, morally wrong, dealbreakers, and a lot of other labels I would use before I personally would voice the words sexual assault.
I’ve personally enforced street justice for less, so don’t misunderstand, and don’t come at me. I’m not condoning or normalizing this in any way. I think you should get to safety and get a temporary restraining order immediately, then consider talking to cops/lawyers about prosecuting for any of that, and, at a bare minimum, definitely follow up with a permanent restraining order/whatever that’s called in your jurisdiction.
Please stay safe. You deserve better. You are strong enough to get out of this and build a better life.
Your boyfriend????
You shouldn’t be on this subreddit