Ok I really need help I’m below 18 female and this makes me really uncomfortable my mom has this boyfriend who I’ve known for like 3-4 year and my mom finally got back on her feet after being homeless so my place to sleep is the living room and the past couple nights my mom’s boyfriend has been hiding behind the hallway corner kinda like peeking at me and everytime I catch him it freaks me out and I don’t know if this is weird or not but I stay up at night feeling sick because of it can someone please please please tell me if it’s normal.. please I need recommendations because idk how I’d go about telling someone…
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Is this illegal or something idk I haven’t learned about that kinda stuff yet but I want to know if this gets out of hand if something legal might have to happen
This is my 5th time trying t get help and reddit keeps taking it down I’m starting to get decorate…also really sorry if it doesn’t make sense I don’t know how to phrase any of this?
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It’s creepy, for sure. Have you talked to your mom about this?
There’s more context needed but do you know if he abuses substances? How long has this been going on for? What is he like with you mum and with you? Do you feel like you are in active danger?
I understand you might struggle to talk to your mum about it, so is there another relative you trust? Maybe a teacher, someone from church or another community?
I’m very sorry to hear about your situation, that sounds incredibly scary
To be honest it depends on many factors, for example timing, does he do it when you usually change clothes or in skimpy clothing, if yes, then yea a creep
Is your apartment small and he couldn’t go elsewhere for some reason, for example your mother was sleeping and he didn’t want to disturb her
Was he staring or just took a quick glance and turned his head back, while doing something else for example watching a video, if that’s a place he usually chills at its nothing serious.
Does he have substance abuse of some kind
If you feel like he is ogling you inappropriately, you should bring it up to your mother and talk with her, also I suggest pepper spray if you feel unsafe, it’s cheap and legal, if he tries something one spray in the eyes is good enough to incompassata a grown man, in case you can’t move out for some reason, but the main thing should be you telling your mom and her having a talk with him, the pepper spray is just insurance
Edit: also for legality yes, if he tries something you can press charges for sexual assault, that’s a commen law in most countries, there are quite a few similar laws so legal action are possible if you he tries to do something
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