Ok, so I’m not necessarily afraid to ask this I’m just looking for more opinions. So last night me and my GF got onto the topic of fighting. The question asked is “Have you ever seen someone and thought “they could probably beat my ass, but I’d still fight them if I had to”. I said No because I would never believe anybody could beat me in a fight. Doesn’t matter who it is. As we dove down the topic I explained that if any body wanted to fight me at this point In my life, it’s not a fight, it’s life or death. If I’ve done all I can to defuse the situation, but the other party is persistent about fighting me, I’m not fighting fair. I’m poking eyeballs out. I’m kicking knees in. My intent will be to cause maximum physical harm. My GF said I might be crazy, I’m wondering if anybody else feels the same way. Everybody I’ve asked just sees a fight as a fight.
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Certainly depends on the situation, but not all fights are life and death. Oftentimes when you get into a fight with someone, the person you’re fighting has no desire to actually cause permanent damage or kill you. Some people just like fighting.
For my own reasons, I fight for keeps, too. This said, no; it’s not normal.
Nope, not crazy. Lots of people can probably kid my middle aged ass. But I’m not going to take a beating without them losing something. Ear, eye, nose, balls, finger I’m taking something with me.
I don’t know about you man, but I see some buff ass dude with a neck width of almost a foot across and I think, holy fuck… that dude would kill me. He could literally take my whole life if he wanted to. I ain’t fighting that dude. I think you were being dishonest or you’re naive.
“Everyone has a plan until they get their nose broken.”
These days, you fight like that and you’re gonna do time, 100%. Unless the attacker has a knife or something, in which case you’re better off running.
It takes a bigger man to walk away.
Why turn something into a life or death struggle that doesn’t need to be?
My ex asked me this question before since I’m a martial artist, “have you ever seen someone and thought they could beat your ass” I responded with “it’s 50/50 because I don’t know what they know or what they’re capable of, but I’d never start a fight I’m trained to deescalate the situation. However if I have to fight I’m not fighting for looks I’m fighting to end it in 3 hits or less.” So for me at least it is normal but it also depends on your situation, big guy 230+ absolutely I’m breaking their knees. Smaller person I’m not going to because it’s unnecessary when you can take them out with force rather easily (depending on what they know) however if it’s deadly force (knife, gun, or bat/club) I’m reciprocating the deadly force with whatever I can do
“Normal”, yeah.
“Accurate” hell no.
Tons of people, especially people who don’t really get in many fights, hold this belief because it makes them feel safe.
It’s comforting to think that if you go “all out” and the other person doesn’t, that you will win. This is, unfortunately, completely untrue.
Any experience with a martial art will show you very quickly that size and strength matter quite a lot more than adrenaline, meanness, or “fighting dirty”.
As a 140lb person, I have come to understand how ridiculous it is to believe that I could win a fight against some rando dude. Now, with some training under my belt, I have a much better understanding of who I could and could not defend myself against.
If it were true that size, strength, and skill could be discounted in the face of “committing 100%”, then cats would never beat mice, mature goats with big horns wouldn’t get all the goat ladies, dogs wouldn’t hip check each other to see who’s bigger, violent rape would never succeed, and murder without a deadly weapon would never be a conviction. You believe you could beat anyone in a fight because it’s nice to think that, and you don’t know any better. But unless you also failed to mention that you’re 7’3 and 340lbs, it ain’t so.
I always thought I could just “win a fight” by gouging someone’s eyes out, but you know what’s really good at seeing that coming? Eyes.
People who hold this belief will lose every fight.
Two reasons:
It will be very difficult to change this belief until you can find a better way to feel safe. That’s the nature of denial.
I used to see chili cans at Walmart and think i could use that to break jaws, not really normal but maybe you have some pent up anger. It’s all fine and dandy though, welcome to the club.