a man i am talking to 35m and i am 22f. he told me that at age 13 he had sex with his neighbor who was 22 years old at the time and female. he says it was a win but i repeatedly tell him it was rape because i would never in my right mind be able to have sex with a 13 yr old at the age i am now. i understand that to a young boy that may be awesome like the movie “thats my boy” but she literally went to prison bc it was the r word. in the comments can you explain to either me or him as to who is in the right and wrong in this argument?
edit: no one is trying to “win” this argument and no one is trying to get anyone to feel a certain way. im simply just trying to get his old ass to recognize that these days we see that a 13 yr old sleeping with a 22 yr old no matter the genders involved is wrong. he simply was refusing to see my side in the situation until i made this post. i had literally said in the op that i understood and heard where he was coming from as to HIM thinking it was okay and consentual, but he wasnt seeing that it wasnt okay on HER part. the way some people like to twist things is absolutely ridiculous. thank you to the ones who were picking up what i was putting down and helping me get him to see where i was coming from as well. also let me add that the age gap between us is not a “red flag” or anything wrong in our eyes. im a single independent mother with my own everything and unfortunately for the men my age, just havent proven they arent up to my maturity level. let me add that i did the r word thing cause im not sure what will get me banned from reddit or not, not bc im any less of an adult.