My (26F) now ex (36M), while we were having sex, took his phone and played a sex tape of him and his ex (which I know). We both get turned on by “prohibited” things, but I told him that was wrong cause his ex wouldn’t consent to this.
I then asked him if he will do the same one day, with another girl and some videos of me and him that he took, if we broke up.
He told me this is something he can only do with me, but that he has no idea what will happen in the future, but he hopes we never broke up.
I asked him to delete the videos he took with me. He got very angry. He said Im a shitty person, that he wouldn’t do what I just did to him to his worst enemy, that I judged him and I’m fucking moralist about everything. He broke up with me. I asked him multiple times to delete the videos. He got more and more mad. I told him I was going to tell his dad. He screamed louder and louder. He told me if I kept asking he was going to go sleep to his parents and leave me there (in his house).
I tried to stop him when he was leaving but he told me if I didn’t move he would kill me, that he would break me and leave me on the floor.
So I let him go.
He came back after a few minutes and proceeded to put his dck in my mouth while I was peeing. I started crying. He asked me why I was crying. I told him I was crying cause I was afraid of his reaction if I said I didn’t want to do that (he doesn’t take “no” very well, he says I always tell him no even if it’s not true, I just have boundaries about some things but he never accepted them).
He told me he was doing that cause he wanted to humiliate me and get me off my pedestal. Then he kept telling me to sck him and pushed my face on him.
We then had sex while I was crying, he asked me again why I was crying and I told him the same thing. He asked me if I wanted to keep having sex or not, I told him yes. I said yes cause I was afraid of what he would have done if I said no. He took the phone again and made me watch the video, when he moved the phone in front of my eyes I tried to move my eyes away as much as I could. He asked me multiple times if I knew what I did was horribile. I replied that I didn’t know and he told me there was no hope with me. He finished and since then we didn’t talk anymore.
This morning he went with me to the train station, bought me some food and when my train left he went away without saying goodbye.
Everyone is telling me it was rape. But I never said no directly. And I did what he asked me without doing much to stop it. I’m confused about what happened..
I’m devastated about what happened.. when I got into the train I couldnt even breath.. I struggle to think clearly..
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That’s absolutely horrific and I’m sorry you went through that. He sounds unstable and very volatile I would avoid any further contact without another present. From what you said that’s most definitely rape. You need to leave him and maybe think about pressing charges if for nothing else but to get those videos of you and the ex relinquished to you. This is a hard time but time has a way of dulling everything. Wish you the best.
oh my god. this is absolutely horrible. first and foremost if ur comfortable w it you need to go to the police. he has videos of you naked you asked him to delete so those are not consensual any longer. he’s also showing you videos of a girl who didn’t consent to that, you should 1000% notify her that he’s doing that. maybe you guys can help each other. but even though you didn’t say no, he forced himself on you and nobody in their right mind thinks telling someone he’s gonna kill them and having them so scared they’re crying is in the mood to do anything sexual. it’s no question he was aware that this was inappropriate, to say the least. he took advantage of you, threatened you, violated you. whether the definition or the courts would consider that rape, i don’t know. but it’s evident you didn’t want it. and it’s evident that he knew what he was doing wasn’t okay. you’re clearly hurt from this experience and he deserves to have justice served. he’s a piece of shit and he will do this to someone else. if not worse. he needs to be stopped. i’m so sorry this happened to you. i’m ending you so much love and light
What a sick mfer!!!! Run run as fast as you can !!!
I’m extremely concerned about your safety. Please…. Please notify the police he threatened to k*ll you first off. Your safety is number one. Also report what he did to you. If he can do this to you, what will stop him from doing it to someone else? Get away from him now!
Who is still recording /allow recording videos of themselves having sex? It is a recipe for disaster.
That guy has some serious violent sexual tendencies. Stay away from that psycho. Also, in a lot of countries he would legally have to delete past videos of you if you ask him to.
100% it was rape. Get a rape kit, file a report
Would you initiate sex with a guy who was crying? Would you then continue the sex while he was crying even if he said yes? Or would you leave him alone, like someone who is not a rapist?
What the fuck
Go to a hospital and ask for rape kit before it’s too late.
Then go to the police.
Take this very seriously and never speak to him again, never ever for anything.
Call the cops! He assaulted and took videos without your consent!
What a terrible day to have eyes
Oh my gosh, this story got worse and worse , I am so sorry for you !