I (16f) live with my mom (43f) and younger brother (14). I have a known allergy to peanuts and almonds but not anaphylaxis shock allergy, I just come out in rashes and hive allergy so we know I have to be careful with every nut. A few days ago, my mom accidentally ordered me a curry with cashews in it. I ate it all not knowing there was nuts in it till afterwards and fast forward 30 minutes I can’t talk, I can’t breathe, my face feels swollen, my nose is entirely blocked, I feel like throwing up and my throat feels like it’s on fire. I feel like at this point an ambulance should’ve been called because it’s better to be safe then sorry. She refuses and just says it’s because I’m stressing out about it.
Meanwhile she planned on taking my brother down to the ER the next day because he’s had a common cold for a few days.
I’ve put this in advice because I don’t think this is normal for a parent to do and seeking advice on how I go about telling my mom that this I don’t think this is normal.
I also apologise if this seems unreadable as I’m dyslexic so thank you.
Is this technically child neglect?
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Has this been a pattern? Are there other family adults you can speak with?
Yes it is. Anaphylaxis X can change its reaction at any point. Just because it’s wasn’t severe last time doesn’t mean it’s not severe next time.
If your throat and nose are swollen to the point it’s difficult to breathe you go to the hospital, especially if you’ve eaten a full tub of curry with them in.
You’re not talking 1 or two here. You’re talking a whole GD curry. That much exposure can make the next mistake deadly.
I highly suggest you get your allergy retested incase you now need to carry an EpiPen
Your mom needs to take your condition seriously. If you can get another adult to talk to her, preferable a doctor or a nurse, that would help.