Sometimes i want to do it with my bf but I still have 2nd thoughts that I might regret losing my virginity to him because what if we break up? Sometimes after a huge argument I tell myself “thank god i didn’t do it” although i was soo fucking close to do it. I love him but I’m scared of betrayal and the fact he could change into someone I don’t recognise anymore one day. Did any girls regret losing their purity to a guy? I feel like waiting until marriage makes you see if a guy really wants to be with you for more than your body. It’s crazy how so many christian men don’t want to wait until marriage despite their religion too, lol.
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I am not religious but I am a girl and I’m saving myself in that way for my forever partner. I’m 21 right now, never did the deed and I feel glad that I haven’t as in my opinion it’s the highest form of intimacy to have with someone but everyone seems to water it down to a hobby nowadays and I hate that.
sexual chemistry is important in a relationship and after youre already married is def not the best time to find out that youre not sexually compatible but only you should be making the decisions about your body so do what you feel is most comfortable/important to you.
I’m not religious and I do not regret being semi promiscuous. It was fun and I got lots of practice for my husband. Deciding to save yourself is only something you can decide unless you have religion dictating your life. I think people put way too much stock in their virginity and that it’s just a social construct that aims to control. That’s just my 2 cents.
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“purity” is a social construct most predominately formed by religion. You, and all other women, aren’t anymore or less pure based on having sex. You shouldn’t base your self-worth on things other people decide for you.
I grew up very religious and feel very strongly that nobody should wait until marriage. That doesn’t mean you should sleep around or anything (I mean unless you want to.🤷🏻♀️) but if you’re in a committed relationship, I would definitely sleep with my partner specifically because someone can be an awesome person and a good partner but sexual chemistry is really important and you could be compatible in every other way, get married, have sex and just have a very unfulfilling sex life because you aren’t compatible with your partner.
i think it’s unbelievably naive to do. sexual compatibility is just as important as all other aspects of compatibility (values, communication, respect, etc).
i can’t imagine going into a marriage blind to that aspect. it’s no different from waiting until marriage to find out your partner’s political views.
i’ve had a few hookups that were terrible enough for me to know i’d be extremely unhappy in a marriage with them and would just end up getting a divorce.
sexual compatibility isn’t everything to everyone, though. some people are even fine with their partner being at the opposite end of the political spectrum.
but IMO, compatibility is just too important to overlook.
No. I think it’s important to make sure you are compatible.
Body harmony is very important make sure you have it before marriage
True“sexual incompatibility” is so rare 🙄 You figure it out together and it brings you closer. Don’t let anyone tell you a life partner is like a car you need to test drive ahead of time. Stick to your morals and be true to your values.
Waited for my marriage to my husband (he had also waited) and have never regretted that decision for a second.
Regardless of your decision making process, you should know that everyone will change into someone you don’t recognize anymore. You, him, your friends, parents, etc.
I’m an atheist, so I wouldn’t know where you’re coming from, although I understand it quite well. Simply know that living in the moment, having the best possible time of your life in that moment, treasuring it for what it’s worth and not ruining your decisions by over thinking it is the best possible way to go about with it.
My husband and I never even touched before marriage because of our religious beliefs. We were both virgins and completely inexperienced.
There is nothing more intimate and beautiful to me than the fact that we learned everything together, physically and emotionally. We were like two fresh molds that slowly shaped each other with love, patience, and trust. That created such a deep bond between us.
I know everyone’s journey is different, but for me, waiting until marriage removed so much doubt. I never had to wonder if he just wanted my body. he waited because he wanted me, fully and forever. That’s something I’ll always treasure.
> I feel like waiting until marriage makes you see if a guy really wants to be with you for more than your body.
I’m sorry but guys will literally spend years to get into a girl’s pants it doesn’t really matter.
There are a few issues with waiting until marriage.
First, you won’t gain experience over the years, which could lead to incompatibility with many people later in life.
How can you expect to marry someone if you don’t even get into relationships first?
Also, while you’re waiting, your future husband could be having many partners by the time he meets you, so again, you won’t be compatible due to your inexperience with relationships.
Not to mention many people are assholes, so what if you’re waiting until marriage and your future husband turns out to be someone who wasn’t even worth the wait?