I am a 18 year old female and I’m afraid I will never get married because I don’t fit beauty standards
I’m not skinny, I’m not overweight… just plain
I have fair skin but dark brown hair. And it’s all over my body, not excessively dark. But definitely there
I try to shave my armpits and legs. I wax wherever is needed on my face.
I still feel disgusting and lonely. Especially as a middle eastern Christian woman.
And social media is ruining my self image and I only feel more disgusted. I feel so damn lonely.
Any advice? Or just something to help me through this?
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no it’s not disgusting to men But like anything in the world there will be people who like it and people who don’t and that is completely OK. It’s all about how you feel If you feel comfortable and confident in yourself then that’s all that matters No one else’s opinion should even come into it.
I would very much recommend staying off the social media All you are doing is looking at people who have posed for pictures showing their best qualities and their best days it’s not a real reflection of how people live their lives.
I can assure you there is someone out there who dislikes almost anything. some people can’t tolerate hair, most won’t give a flying fuck.
it sounds to me like your ‘problem’ ist your looks or body hair, but your self-esteem and confidence.
work on those, and if social media is hurting you, drop it. shut it down. you don’t need it.
remember you’re not being real people on there. you’re seeing what they think they should pretend to be for others to see.
It is disgusting yes. But i noticed i never cares for my gf’s when they had lots hair
Women’s worst enemies are magazines and social media telling them what is beautiful. Men will accept a lot. I honestly wouldn’t think too much about it.
Start dating and let them find out for themselves. If they dont like it, then move on. You will def find someone. Trust me.
Not everyone has the same preference. Some men will think nothing of hairy arms others it will be a turn off.
Just hang in there, there’s someone for everyone.
U R feeling insecure but there’s a lot of fellas out there who would very much like to be your partner.
He will definitely come along .
Be patient.
Religious fundamentalism is the bane of society.
Some men like body hair, some men don’t, and some men don’t care either way.
Regardless of how they feel about it, you don’t exist for the pleasure or approval of men.
Having body hair is the perfect detector for idiots. If a man only feels attracted to a woman without any body hair, especially on the legs or even pubic hair, that’s disgusting. The only female persons without those hair are very young minors.
Idc about arm hair. But armpits, legs and obviously facial hair are a complete turnoff. I guess I could deal with leg hair every now and then, but the others are deal breakers.
Throwing this out there. My wife has about 6 or 7 dark hairs under her chin and I still think she’s the most beautiful woman I’ve ever seen. A little hair means nothing. Someone probably finds you beautiful now.
Eh. I notice a personality first. If I fall in love with that, other things are immaterial. Sure, there are preferences, and people can talk about them, but as others have said, someone will like you for you, and if you are ok with shaving, cool. If they try to make you, not cool. Just communicate, and if it’s not a match, just keep going. Just be confident. I know that’s hard, but just do little things for yourself that make you attractive to you. Not a therapist. Also, as a guy who used to be pretty fit and is now meh, I’ve adopted a well, this is me body wise. I’m still lean, but eh. I don’t have time for that anymore. Body is the first thing to change
Get off social media. Work out. Light makeup and hair and skin care to make you feel more feminine
No and in fact many find it lovely, cute or attractive. Or all of the above.
Nah
I actually prefer a light fuzz. I think only a small minority would be disgusted by hair.
>Is women having body hair disgusting to men?
No
Yes it is. Just shave. Guys do it too. Also get off social media. Nothing useful will com from it.
My love, even if you looked the way you always wanted, there would still be men who say you are too fat/ your skin isn’t fair enoug/ you look sickly thin/ you look fake/ your eyes are too far apart etc.
Don’t ever live trying to please men, it’s always a losing game and it’s not worth it.
I wouldn’t say I’m an average man, but I actually like body hair on a woman personally. I also would rather chubby women to a skinny woman. I wouldn’t say stop shaving if it makes you feel pretty, but there are definitely men out there for you. 🫡
I don’t mind it but I need to see to be sure
Social media is the ultimate highlight reel, and it’s heavily edited, filtered, and often just straight-up fake. You’re comparing your real, unfiltered self to someone else’s perfectly curated, probably Photoshopped fantasy. Stop chasing digital ghosts
I dont like it… but I have male friends who looooove it.
I also have friends who like big butts.. I dont.
So.. we all like different things and I like to think there is someone for everyone.
Not if he’s grown. But many men remain in a perpetual state of arrested development. TBH if he’s grossed out by your body then he’s not worthy.
There will always be people who think you are digusting, and there will always be people who think you are beautiful.
The most important part is to be comfortable in your own skin. What do you prefer? Maybe you enjoy the way you look shaved, or you can’t be bothered to do that every week and let it all grow out. Maybe you prefer shaved armpits, but keep your leg hair. When you are comfortable in your own skin, you will attract the right person eventually.
If a man tells you that you are disgusting with body hair, then he is an asshole and you are better off without him.
Sweetie WHO CARES WHAT OTHERS THINK as long as your happy with you! You should not care what others think.
My hair is blonde but it’s so thick that in the sunshine I look like yeti’s daughter. I know there’s nothing wrong with it, but I could never relax in the sunshine and always tried to cover up or hide. Got myself silk epil and have been a smooth hairless happy bunny since. When it’s all in the head it’s hard to get rid of it. Kinda found the solution.
https://youtu.be/S-6xoT5Z2nA?si=TXbZb5Fq-OWGvgco
Hairy woman here, plus I’m fat. Don’t shave anywhere.
Never had an issue with men.
I actually love a hairy woman.
We all have insecurities about the way we look and it is understandable that most are worried about external characteristics mostly.
There are people out there who have different preferences and different ideas of what beautiful is, in their eyes, probably there are a lot of men out there who would choose the characteristics you have, in a partner, than others that you may think as traditional beauty traits.
For the hair growth, I would suggest laser, not IPL, proper laser, it will reduce and weaken the hair in a few sessions and improve your confidence.
I wish you all the best and please remember, we are all beautiful in one way or another. 🤗
Maybe there is medicstion for that level of hair.