MIL commented one more time about how much she wants grandchildren. I wrote a post not long ago about MIL pressuring me into having kids, while she is living with us, and we are having infertility issues.
Right after my last post, I had a conversation with my SO about how these comments are affecting me. He kinda brushed it off at first, saying that she’s not making them out of spite, but promised me that he would put a stop to it the next time she made a comment like that again.
So the chance came last night! Me, my husband and MIL were all sitting down having a normal conversation before going to sleep. My husband was asking me things about my job, because work is being very stressful and I have a lot of responsibilities, so it’s safe to say that’s it’s been a stressful week and I was exhausted. MIL at that point said “yeah but guys, don’t think I don’t do anything all day either!” And started talking about how much her grandchild makes her tired, because now that’s he’s growing up he doesn’t take long naps anymore, and she can only take a nap after he leaves (he comes over twice a week, maybe 3 times so….). After hearing this, I just stopped talking because was that a game about who’s more tired? Idk. I think it was irrelevant. I wake up at 5am to go to work and I’m not back until 5pm.
To this comment, I said well, I wish I could be taking naps sometimes during the day, especially when I have to work on my period. To this she said that when she had her first child, her period pain disappeared. Aaand here we go. I told her that’s not a reason to have a child. And she said “maybe if you would stop preventing it, and start trying you could have a child” that’s it. I lost it. My husband heard it and told her straight up to stop saying that, that we are not stable enough and that I will have a child when I feel ready for it. She kept saying that it will happen when it happens and my husband kept telling her to just stop making comments about this.
I was so happy he stood up for me! I then left, said goodnight and went to my bedroom. In the bedroom I told my husband that this is what I’ve been going through every day. Unwanted comments every day. To my surprise, instead of standing up for me like he did earlier, he told me that’s it’s not important. That his mom didn’t say anything bad. That I need to stop taking it so “personal” because it’s not a big deal.
I just went to bed. I’m not talking to anybody today. I’m so mad, I am already exhausted from work and I really don’t need all this. I need kind words and just some support.