The fact that we live in proximity of each other and possibly share some living spaces doesn’t mean that we have anything to talk about.
In the end, we are just completely random people. Why would we assume that we have some common interest?
If you want to solve something of an administrative nature, then send an email or leave a note. It is way more comfortable as I can choose the time when I react to it.
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Neighbours, sure I only talk to a handful of mine and not often. But flatmates? People you actually live in the same home? That’s weird to never talk to them and actually seems more awkward
Like you are both in the kitchen and just don’t acknowledge each other? That would be a really uncomfortable way to live
I live in Finland and recently moved out of a student housing unit with a kitchen shared by the entire floor of apartments.
I lived there for 4 and a half years and couldn’t tell you the name of a single person who lived there.
It’s fine but why would you not want to?
My neighbours watch my house like a hawk when I’m away, I havnt taken my bins out in 2 years because one of the old men on my street told me “that’s my job son”
I don’t have to worry about my property or pets when I’m not home and having a sense of community is fantastic, only downside is sometimes I’ll get stuck getting my ears chewed off occasionally by a chatty old fella which isn’t all bad either.
Neighbours sure. I say g’day if they’re out and about and will always welcome someone who knocks at my door but I don’t generally seek them out.
But flatmates are different. If you can’t even engage in a simple passing pleasantry from a flatmate in a common area and you can’t handle direct conversation about bills or a furniture delivery without an email or written note, you need to address your social skills decline.
I had Lived in the same apartment for over 15 years. Rarely, if ever spoke to any neighbors. Many came and went. Never knew any of their names. Currently have owned a house for over a year. Live on a corner lot. Have not really formally met my next door neighbour. Just in passing during Halloween. Had a brief conversation with a neighbor down the street who complimented my Halloween and Christmas decorations and just 2 weeks ago met my neighbor behind my house when he stopped to make small talk. I am very introverted and really have no desire to talk to my neighbors.
agreed. why the eff would i talk to my neighbors? theres absolutely no reason to.
Not talking to the people you live with, even for just brief convos, is definitely strange. Like you don’t need to be friends, but being friendly seems pretty important to me
Like not talking to neighbors is fine, but the people you live with specifically is weird
I’ve lived in my lovely neighborhood for 5 years and the thing that makes it most lovely is that I live on a street full of quiet homeowners. None of us ever talk to each other other than a polite hello when passing each other on walks. Ah the good life
Never had a flatmate, but can’t imagine that being a way to live.
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>Why would we assume that we have some common interest?
Why would you assume you don’t. The person you’ve chosen to live with might be awesome.
And I’d actually want to know who this person is that I’m living with.
Going out of your way to avoid talking to them seems silly and impractical. Not all conversations are supposed to be meaningful. That would be exhausting. Also, shared spaces to talk help build the feeling of community and mitigate the loneliness epidemic that capitalist structures have forced us into, in conjunction with hyper romanticizing or glorifying self sufficiency. It’s okay to lean on others and it’s okay to have others lean on you without it having to be a great, unique and meaningful relationship.
This is the biggest difference I’ve noticed between older and younger generations
I heavily moderate interaction with neighbors until I know if they’re insane or not, due to some past experiences, but not being able to tolerate simple acknowledgement when sitting on a couch next to a person you share a roof with is something else.
And here’s me thinking I’m an asocial person at times.
Yeah, sure, if your goal is to be a jerk who doesn’t want to live in a civilized society. Just to coexist with other people around you. That’s fine.
I agree about neighbours. Nothing against them but we don’t have a reason to talk.