Nearly two months ago I had my Justno mil tea party. I threw the popsicles in the pool after my Justno mil started handing out ice cream treats to kids who may have a food allergy. Things got confrontational after that and I double (triple,quadruple) my just no-ness. And I’m here to say, this is the life.
Just no to unannounced visits, just no to airport pickups on a school night. Just no to political vomiting, just. No.
The other night just no turns up, she she hasn’t apologized properly, (sorry you feel that way don’t cut it, Mimi)
Drunk after a day at the casino she’s trying to give us an air fryer for some reason. Husband and I have spoken at depth about this. Now it’s your turn hon.
But he can’t. She barrels over him. So I say, just no. We have a breville and we like it thanks. She was already packing ours up and putting the crap from the casino (which doesn’t fit) in our kitchen.
So I say no. Not no thanks in sorry but.. Just no. And while we are at it, there’s no drop in visits, I need you to say it with me. “No…come on.. drop… in…
She then begins putting her fingers in the food I have cooling on the counter. Licking her unwashed fingers🤢
I say to husband, your mom is eating the lunch I made for you to take to work…
And then he said it! No!! NO mom that’s my lunch. No we don’t want surprise gifts and visits. We have a couple hours together before a busy work week and you cause a lot of shit. Just stop! Hallelujah he did it.
Just no mil lingers around and tries to make conversation with a pouty face on. And then predictably takes a swing at guilt.. her friend from church has cancer and she needs someone to drive her to treatments.. and mil stood up and volunteered in front of everyone at church. But now she’s realizing it’s a very early drive and since we are already up at that hour maybe we would be able to take a few shifts….
JUST NO.
She took her air fryer and slammed the door and tore out of our driveway swerving across the swale.
I’m thinking of making shirts. Maybe a cake for our noversary. Justno. Maybe with some skid marks like the ones she left
It took having the blissful last 7 weeks to compare. But wow. The drama and anger and guilt and selfishness.
Life is so nice without it.
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You are the vigilante hero of the JustNo crime. Lmao
The icing on this beautiful cake would’ve been calling the police to report a drunk driver 😊
Congratulations on DH waking up! Love it!
Hell yea, you channeled your strength. Even DH felt it and was inspired.
Id tell her next time she shows up intoxicated while driving that you will be reporting her, just to add an extra layer of “stay the fuck away”
If a way to a man’s heart is his stomach, surely it is the way to his shiny spine as well.
Mazel to you both, and wishing you a very Just No rest of 2025 and on!
That was a beautiful read, Op. I can just picture pouting Mimi with her stupid air fryer in her hands weaving angrily to her car.
Too bad her drunk obnoxious ass didn’t get stuck in the swale. You could have called the police, set up your lawn chairs, and enjoyed a popsicle while watching her flunk the field sobriety test.
I love the shirt idea and she’s definitely the skid mark you don’t need in your life.
Ah yes, the ol’ “I made a grand gesture for attention and so people could see how kind and humble I am but now I need you to help me” schtick. So been there with my mom. HARD PASS!
Killin’ it, OP!! 💪🏼
“Noversary” has me cackling. This whole post made me happy.
I am laughing so hard rn……will she remember any of it when she sobers up?
This is beautiful. Boundaries + husband backing you = chef’s kiss. 👏
This is great! Congrats!
I’m laughing out loud at the thought of a t-shirt that has tire marks and “JustNo!” on the front. 🤣🤣🤣
The air fryer part killed me. She really packed up your stuff to replace it??
“No… drop… in…” had me cackling. Legendary boundary setting.
Finger-licking in food someone else cooked is where I’d have lost it. Absolutely vile. 🤢
A “Noversary” cake with tire skid marks might be the funniest and most fitting celebration ever.
She tried to steal your Breville!? HULK SMASH
I remember your previous post about the popsicles in the pool and I thought you were amazing. This is even better.
I am glad your husband found his voice about the lunch.
I feel like she actually just wanted to steal your Breville.
First off CONGRATU-FUCKING-LATIONS!!! Good for you, for taking your life back!! Seriously sending you all the good juju.
Second just out of curiosity, do you and DH even know this person she volunteered to drive to appts??? Or did she expect you to just show up and say hello stranger, MIL said you need a ride to a very intense and vulnerable medical appt! Nice to meet you!
If you make the no cake 🎂 could you please 🥺 post pictures the skid marks would be amazing 🤩 congratulations!!!
Congratulations on your artful handling of this latest visit!