It’s my birthday today

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And none of my friends or coworkers remembered. I brought a home made cake to work today and they asked me if they had forgotten anything so I told them it was my birthday. They seemed apologetic (usually birthdays are a big deal at work) and congratulated me so it’s fine.
I took the leftover cake to university after work and my friends didn’t even ask me why I made a cake, they were just glad to eat some. We still had fun though so that’s one thing. I also invited my best friend over for dinner but she cancelled on me (again) saying she had university that morning so she’d be too tired.
My boyfriend remembered though. I had asked him a few days ago if he’d spend time with me because all my plans fell through and he agreed. Well, he played games with his friends and by the time he saw my message, he had a meeting for work and after that it was too late to call.
At least my parents cared and it felt nice to talk to them a bit. They’re great and I’m thankful to have them.
I know it’s not a big deal and it’s just another day in the year but damn. Being an adult sucks. That’s all, thanks for reading.

Comments

  1. Aplike81 Avatar

    Happy birthday, you are worthy ❤️

  2. Thin_Rip8995 Avatar

    being an adult = realizing most ppl care about you way less than you thought
    and it’s brutal at first

    but here’s the cheat code:
    you stop outsourcing your happiness to ppl who can’t even remember a birthday
    you build your own hype, your own traditions, your own damn party if you have to

    today sucked, yeah
    next year?
    you celebrate so loud they either show up or get left behind

    happy birthday btw—you deserved better energy around you

  3. upflyloona Avatar

    Happy birthday

  4. Top-Swordfish-9911 Avatar

    Happy birthday! I’m sorry people suck sometimes. But your boyfriend should be someone you can rely on to prioritize you, especially on your birthday. Maybe tell him how his actions made you feel?

  5. AsylumMoonchild Avatar

    Another day of the year it may be, but it still should be celebrated, so happy birthday! I hope the cake was delicious 😛

  6. cmdr_sparks Avatar

    Happy Birthday ….

    I just share my own experience , growing up as a youngest child my birthday was a big deal in the family, Like a festival. all my sisters always made special for me

    after marriage moved to UK, and now i get two cards , happy birthday wish and thats all ,…. and like a normal day. ofcourse all my family still call etc but its not like before.

    it deeply hurt me as it use to be special day of the year..

    now i dont expect a sinle person to call or wish or anythng, so that way when i get couole cards and few phones feels good.

    if someone forgets , thats okay too

    try next year, just dont expect… it works

    and even if your BF or anyone else dont have time , you treat your self.

    always make a plan and celebrate your self

    ( you will remember this message 10 years later )

  7. poodooscoo Avatar

    I had a big birthday recently, the first one of my gen to turn it. My parents and friends remembered but none of my siblings. I never forget their birthdays, always a card and gift, something more extravagant for big occasions. All I ever get from them is the old ’I forgot!’ Not sure why it hurts but it does, like I don’t matter. It’s not like they don’t do anything for anyone, I’ve been to their bday parties and they all remember each others. I’ve flown in as a surprise before. I am not expecting gifts but there is texting and Facetime, it’s so easy to just send a quick meme or catch up with a quick chat, that would be so sweet. It’s funny because I’m an adult and bdays shouldn’t matter and they really don’t to me. But when your sibs forget you, it hurts a little.

    Eta I hope you had a wonderful day💗 Birthday blessings🎂

  8. musesx9 Avatar

    Happy Birthday!!! You mean something in this world and I am thankful you are in it. You should be celebrated. The world is a better place because of you. Enjoy your day!

  9. NoCow1620 Avatar

    Happy Birthday! I’ve shifted to thinking about my birthday as a personal new years celebration. I don’t need anyone to remember, but if they do, that is nice as well.

  10. megaTorisaurous Avatar

    Its my birthday too!!!

    Happy birthday birthday twin!!!!

  11. xynox19 Avatar

    happy birthday!

  12. SOF1231 Avatar

    Being an adult sucks for birthdays but on the bright side, you’re an adult, if you save some money on the side you can set enough for a nice tropical vacation and enjoy the best birthday with whoever you want.

    Happy birthday as well 😁

  13. CertainConversation0 Avatar

    Happy birthday to you!

  14. DirtyScavenger Avatar

    Happy Birthday to you 🎶

    Happy Birthday to you 🎵

    Happy Birthday dear Fit-Bike9987 🎶🎵🎶🎵🎶🎵🎶

    Happy Birthday To You!!!!!! 🎉🥳🎂😘

  15. BeenReddit Avatar

    Happiest of birthdays today!!

  16. CandidLight3867 Avatar

    Happy birthday 🎂

  17. whyitwontwork Avatar

    That sucks. But I’ve learned from a good friend if you want bday attention that you should always announce that your birthday is only a month away then a week away then two days then one day and then it’s your birthday and no one will forget. And let them know you want everyone to go to lunch or whatever it is you want.

  18. tmhb937 Avatar

    Happy Birthday. You’re worth celebrating and I’m glad you’re here, 🥳🎂🎈

  19. cat_nomore67 Avatar

    Happy birthday 🎂 🥳

  20. amyloulie Avatar

    Happy Birthday – sorry it’s been a bit sucky

  21. Prior_Benefit8453 Avatar

    I dunno. I’m 71, and I NEVER leave this up to chance. I start by posting on Facebook, “This is my birthday month.”

    I am 71. I don’t have many physical friends anymore — I moved since retirement. My family is my daughter’s family.

    I don’t expect anything except from my family. Plus I get a lot of “Happy Birthdays” from Facebook. 😆

  22. littlemscharisma Avatar

    No your birthday is a big deal. HAPPIEST BIRTHDAY TO YOU LOVE 🎀🌸🤍 Better days are coming and you can celebrate everyday like it’s your birthday moving forward because I am sure you deserve it. Make it happen your way, on your terms. 🫶🏽 Cheers to you!

  23. Adventurous_Jump_979 Avatar

    Happy birthday ❤️

  24. Wooowbrofr666 Avatar

    man fuck them kids happy birthday my fellow ♉️

  25. thechubbyballerina Avatar

    It’s just a birthday. You’re not a 4 year old.

  26. C1sko Avatar

    Happy Birthday

  27. Girlnscrubs Avatar

    Happy Birthday 🎂 🥳 🎉 🎈 🎁 Virtual 🫂 hugs.

  28. Mammoth-Suggestion86 Avatar

    I am so sorry for you, but happy birthday to you! I hope that people here can brighten your birthday a little bit!

  29. Ihabnix Avatar

    First of all, happy birthday to you!

    Second, after looking through your post history your boyfriend doesn’t sound like how a partner should act.
    I know it’s not what you want to hear right now. But denying time between you always and not putting any effort sounds pretty sad. I hope you can have a serious talk with him, because in the long run it isn’t healthy at all and you seem to be pretty hurt by it. And it is totally fine to feel like that.

    Regardless, I hope you can enjoy the rest of your birthday and the next one will be better you deserve it 🙂

  30. kelly-golightly Avatar

    Sending happy birthday vibes to you!!

    People are shit and disappoint endlessly. Celebrate with your parents, they will always remember!

  31. kade_v01d Avatar

    happy birthday🖤

  32. Moo58 Avatar

    Happy birthday 🎉🎂🎊🎈🎁 from San Diego!!!

  33. speakofit Avatar

    Happy birthday! What kind of cake did you make?

  34. Charming_Garbage_161 Avatar

    Happy birthday to you! Happy birthday to you! Happy birthday Fit-Bike998 seevveeeeennnnnnn. Happy birthdaaaaayyy tooooo yyooooouuuuu

  35. Left_Sprinkles222 Avatar

    Happy Birthday!! I’m
    sorry you’re sad on your birthday. Hang in there. Not everyone deserves your presence. If they don’t remember your birthday, don’t spend your time on them. ♥️

  36. intersectv3 Avatar

    Happy birthday friend!

  37. h0tnessm0nster7 Avatar

    I read somewhere work will never reward you, you have to reward yourself. Your friends probably dont think its a big deal like they were your parents, you may get a call or a dinner w/family 😃😃😃

  38. ShylieF Avatar

    Happy Birthday!!!

  39. LittleNotice6239 Avatar

    Happy birthday OP 🎉🎂

  40. Songshirah Avatar

    I worked somewhere for 20yrs and not one cake or happy birthday in the whole time. I was devastated.

    It hurt even more seeing colleagues birthdays celebrated with a card sent round for everyone to sign and a cake brought in for them.