Recently, I’ve been talking to this guy from Hinge (29M) and we hit it off really well. He told me from the beginning that he’s married and he is looking to have a poly relationship, which I was fine with. He talks to me about his wife and to be clear, it’s my assumption that he’s told his wife about me too (mainly because he’s literally the most well rounded guy I’ve ever met and in talking to him, he seems intelligent, but I also might have my rose coloured glasses on).
He seems great. Really. However, what’s tripping me up is that I can’t understand how I fit into his life. He’s told me that he wants a long term relationship etc.
I am definitely jumping the gun here and probably overthinking this, but if this becomes a relationship, how will it progress? Will I go live with him and his wife? Surely, I can’t get married to him or anything…so this definition of ‘long term’ confuses me.
And I haven’t expressed this to him, I’ve been trying to figure this out by myself as much as possible first. Maybe I don’t know much about poly relationships…
One last thing is that…I have a crush on someone after such a long time, and I’m having a hard time even thinking about letting something like this go cause I’m demiromantic. I’m very confused; any and all advice is welcome.
TL;DR: Been talking to this guy (29M) who’s married and wants to be in a long term poly relationship. I don’t know how that works.
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just know you are going to be the second or “third wheel” to him, i personally dont think this would work out, though never tried but i have been in a similiar situationship