I’ve been with my husband for almost 10 years, married 4. And 2 children. My Mil hasn’t always liked me and I don’t care, but recently she has started doing a lot of petty shit and I can’t seem to figure out why. Him and I have been fighting for maybe 2 months now over it.
I keep bringing it up to my husband, but he acts like I’m just overthinking and nothing is actually happening. An example: We live next door, and one day she got done mowing and she usually has him move his car so his precious already dirty ass car doesn’t get more dirty, anyway she had a leaf blower and walked over to his car, turned her head and looked directly at me and then turned back and started blowing his car off and then walked away and didn’t blow mine off (not that I wanted her to) it was just the fact it seemed like she was just straight up being a bitch about it that pissed me off.
Another example, the other day we were all outside and my husband went to grab his phone and she asked him if we had any boxes and he didn’t hear her and I was right there and she wouldn’t even ask me she just stared at him and waited for him to come back by her and then asked him again and when she asked I said we didn’t have any at all and she just kept on explaining to him the type of box she needed like I didn’t already fucking say we didn’t have any.
Another thing that drives me up the wall, she constantly mentions women my husband does not know or went to school with and has to point out how pretty they are including girls she works with. And today in front of me, his brother and his gf, she asked him when the last time he saw “so and so” and he was about to tell her he didn’t know who she was talking about and she blurted out “well she’s your age and she’s a pretty girl, she does some police stuff, but she said she’s never having kids” blah blah just talking about how great she is. She has never once in the 10 years we’ve been together told me I’m pretty. I promise you not one time, not even on social media. But she’ll tell his brother’s gf on Facebook all the time that she’s beautiful and likes all her pictures of her but never pictures of just me.
Even his brother’s gf was looking at her crazy after she mentioned that the girl was pretty. After we came inside I asked “why does she feel the need to bring up girls to you all the time and why is it relevant to point out that they’re pretty and other shit like you’re not married or something” and all he said was “well that was my cousin apparently” and I said “like that would even matter to her she’s married to her fucking cousin”
so that didn’t go over well, but it’s the truth and I’m sick of her shit when I haven’t done anything to her🤷🏼♀️
He just keeps saying he’s not getting in the middle of “our shit” but it’s her, like I’m not even reacting to her about any of this just to try to keep the peace, but he can’t even so much as ask her to stop being petty towards me when I haven’t done shit to her. He says he’s afraid to start something when there might not be anything, so basically I’m just making all this up.
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Yeah shes being petty. She doesn’t see you as a person and is treating you as a side object to your husband.
As a side note I do not fully understand the cousin part of this. Is she married to her cousin? Whats happening with that
MIL is petty and picking fights and lives next door. Since she’s not going to change and husband doesn’t want to defend you, you have to find a way to dial down your response to her. The stress of constant needling can create overreaction on your part. She knows that and is baiting you. Don’t play her game. It doesn’t matter if she doesn’t think you’re pretty enough for her baby boy. You’re his wife, point is settled. Find a friend or 2, join a local group, take the kids out – just get some distance until you can figure out how you want to proceed. MIL is not the only problem you have here.
She doesn’t like you and it’s probably jealousy. I’m sorry you are going through this, I would avoid her from now on, have your husband deal with her on his own.
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