As long as your political views don’t allow for racism, sexism, and accept that all people are equals in every way that matters, then I have no issues with them.
It matters so much for me, I can barely be friends with people who have very different views as it’s uncomfortable/kinda scary to knowingly be friends with someone who wants to take away my rights as a person or even want to hurt someone like me
I’ve always tried to seperate the two and make a conscious effort to see the good in people who did not share my beliefs. However I am a trans person and currently the admin is wanting to dehumanize and criminalize trans people. I know good people who have treated me with nothing but kindness but they voted for laws and such that they knew would come because they cared about other issues more. I can appreciate that, but it’s not fiscal policy, it’s literally someone’s ability to exist. It’s getting harder to seperate the two nowadays because most people have never met a trans person to see that we are not terrible eunuchs, but rather tax paying citizens getting fucked by the government policies too. Demonizing us isnt the correct answer. I’ve got friends who’ve admitted that they didn’t care about trans rights before me whereas even though I’m not religious, I’ve always supported the right to exercise and practice religion. That lack of reciprocation and empathy, idk, hard not being as biased towards them as they are me. I am fully aware that this is sort of immature but damn, every day is a new law because the trump admin has given the green light to discriminate against trans people and thus states are following suit. If I cross state lines, I need to know what rights I do or don’t have.
Aunt & Uncle are on opposite sides of the political spectrum.
You do not want to be around when the uncle starts praising the orange turd pancake – things get uncomfortable pretty damn quick as my aunt isn’t afraid to fire back.
I think in any relationship involving sex, each person’s views on abortion will probably come up, and opposing views on the subject could be a deal breaker.
One of the biggest delusions about politics is that political opinions are somehow divorced from values. They aren’t. Politics create policies, and policies are perfectly capable of being evil as we’ve seen for ourselves in the last 100 days.
Political disagreements don’t really matter to me. But especially nowadays political disagreements can stem from moral disagreements, and that is much more likely to be a dealbreaker
100% yes.
I may have lost my first friend to their political views this week, which sucks, but I said many time before this election anyone who votes for a party who wants to take away my rights and those of my friends, isn’t a. Friend of mine.
She then went and voted for the worst party because the name ‘sounded good’ after almost 2 weeks of us sharing resources so she could make an informed decision, sharing who we will be voting for and why and why it matters. And then when we got mad about it, she acted like it was no big deal and said she didn’t care who got in.
no, so long he doesn’t push it on me. same with friends. its upto you who you want to vote, so long we don’t discuss it or you try to convince me to go along with your choice.
Yes. Most rational people’s political views align with their core values as a person. In my opinion a relationship isn’t something that lasts long term without shared values and opinions about what is important in life.
Yes! People who say “I don’t get involved in politics” or “politics don’t matter to me” are either (intentionally or unintentionally) ignorant and/or very privileged. The fact is that politics influence every day life for everyone.
yes they definitely matter. doesn’t mean you can’t be friends with or romantically involved with someone with different views. but it’s one thing to disagree about local zoning or tax rates, and a whole other to disagree with someone’s right to exist. some things are fundamental
In the past it didn’t matter much to me as long as the person wasn’t extreme. Since about, oh, 2016 that has changed. I now see someone’s politics as a direct reflection of a person’s judgement and morals. I even changed dentists because I no longer had faith in their judgement and guidance for the health of my teeth.
Somewhere along the lines, we’ve commingled “politics” with “morals” and vice versa. I read a post on here not too long ago where the poster mentioned that their grandparents politics consisted of which county project should get the money from county taxes, and wouldn’t discuss it because they disagreed.
Those kinds of politics? Absolutely doesn’t matter. Politics as we know it today, where a single label tells you roughly where their moral compass points, matters significantly.
So yes. I’m glad to say my hubby and I agree on pretty much everything.
Also I’m not using politics again tonight. I used it way to much
I’m not a white person so it matters a lot to me. Very often disagreeing about politics corresponds to disagreeing about my humanity, and that’s a dealbreaker.
We can disagree on economic policy, but not on social issues. I won’t date someone who will vote against my human rights. Politics may seem negligible to you, but politics decides if I can use a public restroom, get married, get medical care, update my name and gender, or be tortured against my will as a minor (conversion therapy, and Blue Cross Blue Shield Federal Employee Program paid for me to be put through it, so your tax dollars, my tax dollars, paid for teenage me to be tortured). One isn’t more “mature” or less “superficial” by acting like “we can disagree on politics and still love each other” is a morally superior position.
Yes but only indirectly. The bigger issues for me involve compassion and empathy for others. How you feel about these will inevitably reveal on which side of the aisle you land.
Yes. While you can certainly have differing views about specific topics or how to address some topic, there are positions that are just a no-go. If the partner is willing to take food out of children’s mouths? That’s a major red flag. If a partner is against abortion but won’t lift a finger once the child is born to help a struggling family? End of relationship. A person who claims to be a “good Christian” but then does everything opposite of the teachings over the centuries? That person is not mentally healthy. I could never find common ground.
Extreme or hardened political views, which are often accompanied by a propensity to believe verifiably stupid shit, are a deal breaker. Irrational devotion to one’s political tribe, often caused by the regular consumption of biased information in one’s preferred echo chamber, is not worth the trouble in a relationship.
Regarding the current situation, we’ve seen and heard more than enough from Trump himself to know that his fanatical supporters are meant for each other and that reasonable people with standards and a functioning moral compass would be wise to avoid the cult.
100%. There are lots of political differences I can accept in a relationship, but some are non-negotiable. A lot of political stances/beliefs are based on your morals/ethics, and if you have incompatible morals/ethics, that can be a dealbreaker.
Even on some big issues, we can disagree. They believe that life begins at conception so their opinion is that abortion is murder? I can understand that belief, even though I’m pro-choice and disagree with their position.
However, even smaller discussed issues may be a sign we aren’t compatible. If they think it’s okay to send refugees to almost certainly die, without a trial or due process, well that violates my moral code and ethics, so it’s a bigger deal to me. We probably don’t have morals that we can agree to disagree on in that case.
Friendship is a thing. You don’t live with the person and may avoid the problematic topics, as you will most likely see each others to have fun.
However in a relationship, it’s your common life, and is normally the person with whom you can talk about everything. Obviously you can argue and debate over little things, that’s healthy. But if the matters argued about are some values that you consider as basic, and your partner doesn’t share them, it’s going to be a dealbreaker.
I think level of involvement matters. People can agree to disagree and still be friends or partners. But if one or both people becomes really involved and politics starts to permeate everything and things get heated often, then it’s probably not going to work and is in the best interest of both people to break it off.
Moderation is key.
I’m trans lol.
One side thinks I’m represented by my community: so annoying we need to be voted off the internet, and the other might actually identify as a straight dude wanting to date me. It’s no contest.
We’ll just say “fuck you, don’t talk to me “, for a night, then continue on with loving each other. Ethics and morals is what matters. She can hate my terminator poster all she wants… but it make me happy and it’s not hurting anyone… and she’s aloud to fall asleep to twilight every night. It is what it is; we still love each other
Go back 15 years and I’d say it’s not that big a deal as long as they don’t believe anything too evil like poor views about gay people or something similar. Nowadays one side has been so anti human rights and even anti American truly I’d find it hard to reconcile. Even with family members the only way I can reconcile it is believing they’re just extremely fucking stupid. It’s either that or they’re bad people.
Honestly, it depends on how truly malleable of a person they are. Currently, I don’t like conservative policies because I am a firm believer in due process and human rights. If someone can come over to my side, or they can bring me over to theirs, then that’s healthy discourse at play.
It’s safe to say that we’re not experiencing healthy discourse in the US currently. It’s become the “financial stability or human rights” talking point. If you choose anything other than human rights, it brings your moral and ethical character into question. We shouldn’t be in a world where that became a reality, and it says a lot about the wider American populace.
So I suppose it does matter: I won’t touch a staunch conservative currently with a thousand foot pole. Maybe 5-10 years when their blood has cooled and they’ve softened, but not now.
Yeah, whoever you’re in a relationship with may be the person you raise a family with. I don’t have to have the exact same morals as my partner but we have to be in some agreement on what we pass down to our kids.
15 years ago? No. Today, yes. Too many people make politics their identity or they entangle political ideologies into their morals and ethics because they have nothing else and it takes over their personality.
Highly depends on the political view. I can easily look past some stuff and others are a hard no. Stuff like “Gay people should not exist?” Hard no. If it’s something small yeah. My wife and I don’t fully 100% agree on everything politically, but the major ones that affect our lives personally, LGBTQ+ friendly as an example, align. We would not be together if we didn’t. She’s a big supporter and has quite a few trans friends, I also an friends with a few LGBTQ+ people.
As long as she’s somewhere on the left side of the spectrum, I don’t care if her views differ from mine, lol.
Seriously though, politics result from values and ethics. Morality. Of course it matters. And nowadays it’s practically an intelligence test. I could never respect anyone who was a Trumper.
My mom is middle and my dad is conservative and they have a good relationship. Politics causes a lot of stress at times. They’re both for people and for making the U.S a better place and God but certain topics and politics now just tire us out.
If I was to get married, my man doesn’t need to have every same opinion as me but I want him to be teachable, loving, good at listening, respectful, kind, and have his faith in God’s plan rather than a president or any person. Also don’t want somebody who’s super into politics. No way we’re putting a sign in our yard or watching the news 24/7. To care that much about politics is asking for unrelievable stress and conflicts.
Yeah at this point. My son’s father wasn’t American so it didn’t matter so much but that was 15 years ago and it’s a different country now. I don’t mind someone being fiscally moderate but if you’re not left as far as social issues go you’re not gonna want to be in my house anyway.
Meh, its more about the core values than actual politics in a serious relationship. Idrc what side you vote for as long as we share the same values, theres just certain political leanings that have certain values.
My ex-husband is a Republican and I’m an independent who leans left, during our marriage. Politics was not an issue because he was actually pro-choice and reasonable about the second amendment. Probably because he’s a nurse. so that was not a problem in our marriage, his cheating was.
Fast-forward to Trump’s first term and he’s a fan. We were already divorced for several years by then, it really makes no sense to me as he has not changed his views on abortion, he is not against LBGTQA community. He has several family & friends who are gay, has 2 grandchildren who are trans-still reasonable on second amendment and that he believes not everyone should be allowed to own a gun. He is someone who loves camping and hiking and fishing.-so I really have no idea what the attraction is for him, but it would definitely not work for me.
It used to not matter. I felt like there could be a middle ground between two people on opposite sides, but now, no, that middle ground doesn’t exist anymore. I couldn’t date a Trump supporter or anyone with extremist views (regardless of what side they are on).
Yes… people who act like political views aren’t a reflection of someone’s broader worldview and moral stance are being deliberately obtuse. You want someone whose values more or less match yours, that includes politics and other things like religion. If you’re an atheist don’t go dating a devoutly religious person, same thing…
Today, absolutely. If a person has no political opinion, I know they’re not conscious enough to care what happens to them. If they’re Republican, conservative, Christian right, or any other term that means this, I’m politely declining to converse with them. Nothing they say or believe will jibe with what I believe and that’s not just a fundamental thing, at this point, it’s my whole life. People who support Trump have lost the ability for self preservation and will to live in a free democracy. If they say they haven’t, they’ve been so deeply conned and brainwashed that I won’t be anywhere near them.
lowkey it matters on core issues like vaccines but idrc if someone’s a George bush repub. like if we disagree on taxes idc but I do not want to bring my family around someone who might give my loved ones covid or worse
My political choices are driven by my internal moral code. I’ve just always cared about the environment, animals, and other people. If your political opinions don’t match mine, it’s extremely likely your moral code also doesn’t match my own. Why would I want to date someone whose moral code doesn’t match with my moral code?
Yes, especially in today’s radicalized environment. It says something about you as a person if you actively support stripping people of their rights and their lives, it’s not just an innocent ‘oh I don’t like high taxes’
10000000% if we don’t agree, buh bye. I’m trying to raise compassionate human beings who are self less and are always looking to improve the world. There’s usually only one political party trying to achieve that.
Yes. It doesn’t need to be identical, we don’t need to agree on everything, we don’t even need to be voting for the same person (for countries that have more than 2 parties), but some things are non-negotiables. Especially when it comes to social issues and human rights
I don’t think you need to be on the same side of the party lines.. but I do think you have to agree on some of the foundational points that are important to both. Someone might feel more conservative due to economic factors, maybe they believe in less regulation, less government control, less taxes.. I think that can co-exist with a partner who feels that social services are important and they are okay paying more taxes to support those things, and that regulations keep greedy people in check, etc.. you can have nuanced convos and some of those are just like toss your hands up, you gotta pay taxes regardless, etc..
I think you run into trouble when it’s extreme sides of each, or when it’s more “value” judgments.. religious vs not, abortion vs not, equal rights vs not, etc etc.. those types of topics are more tied to how you view/navigate the world, and it’s far more challenging to look past someone who thinks they are superior to others just cause of their race they were born into, and you feel like everyone has value..
With that being said.. you see people ignore these differences all the time.. especially older couples where maybe the woman is more submissive to the husbands/parents political views than today’s woman as an example.
Unless they are either far right or far left im generally apathetic to political discussion/beliefs granted they can set aside talking about them 24/7.
Obviously if they make it a topic of discussion at every single meal then yeah id have an issue with it, just like id have an issue with any other topic if they were constantly talking about it.
I believe that our political views are a reflection of our morals and values, and those things are very important to me. I could never date a conservative.
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yes. of course they do
Yes.
As someone wise once said, you may not mess with politics, but politics will mess with you.
As long as your political views don’t allow for racism, sexism, and accept that all people are equals in every way that matters, then I have no issues with them.
It matters so much for me, I can barely be friends with people who have very different views as it’s uncomfortable/kinda scary to knowingly be friends with someone who wants to take away my rights as a person or even want to hurt someone like me
Absolutely.
Nah … politics ruins relationships..
these days differences in politics are character differences
Some are fine. Some are deal breakers.
We can generally disagree on 2A and still be friends.
COVID-deniers and non-human rights supporters can fuck right off. I will (and have) drop that relationship like a hot potato.
Massively. If we don’t agree on some baseline things, there’s no point in even meeting.
absolutely
Yes. If we’re morally opposed we’re not gonna work
Absolutely. I’m not going to date a Nazi
I’ve always tried to seperate the two and make a conscious effort to see the good in people who did not share my beliefs. However I am a trans person and currently the admin is wanting to dehumanize and criminalize trans people. I know good people who have treated me with nothing but kindness but they voted for laws and such that they knew would come because they cared about other issues more. I can appreciate that, but it’s not fiscal policy, it’s literally someone’s ability to exist. It’s getting harder to seperate the two nowadays because most people have never met a trans person to see that we are not terrible eunuchs, but rather tax paying citizens getting fucked by the government policies too. Demonizing us isnt the correct answer. I’ve got friends who’ve admitted that they didn’t care about trans rights before me whereas even though I’m not religious, I’ve always supported the right to exercise and practice religion. That lack of reciprocation and empathy, idk, hard not being as biased towards them as they are me. I am fully aware that this is sort of immature but damn, every day is a new law because the trump admin has given the green light to discriminate against trans people and thus states are following suit. If I cross state lines, I need to know what rights I do or don’t have.
Aunt & Uncle are on opposite sides of the political spectrum.
You do not want to be around when the uncle starts praising the orange turd pancake – things get uncomfortable pretty damn quick as my aunt isn’t afraid to fire back.
You can’t build a house together if one of you thinks the foundation doesn’t matter. So yeah, it matters—especially if core values don’t line up.
If someone is against human rights and lacks empathy we can’t be friends, if someone disagrees on taxes or public transport I don’t care.
I think in any relationship involving sex, each person’s views on abortion will probably come up, and opposing views on the subject could be a deal breaker.
One of the biggest delusions about politics is that political opinions are somehow divorced from values. They aren’t. Politics create policies, and policies are perfectly capable of being evil as we’ve seen for ourselves in the last 100 days.
Political disagreements don’t really matter to me. But especially nowadays political disagreements can stem from moral disagreements, and that is much more likely to be a dealbreaker
If you’re both into politics than yes it definitely does, especially if you’re both extremists.
I can work with a Trumper and maintain respect, but I will not have sex with a Trumper.
Yes 100% they do
100% yes.
I may have lost my first friend to their political views this week, which sucks, but I said many time before this election anyone who votes for a party who wants to take away my rights and those of my friends, isn’t a. Friend of mine.
She then went and voted for the worst party because the name ‘sounded good’ after almost 2 weeks of us sharing resources so she could make an informed decision, sharing who we will be voting for and why and why it matters. And then when we got mad about it, she acted like it was no big deal and said she didn’t care who got in.
no, so long he doesn’t push it on me. same with friends. its upto you who you want to vote, so long we don’t discuss it or you try to convince me to go along with your choice.
I don’t have to 100% agree with them but I do have lines that I will not cross whatsoever
Yes. Most rational people’s political views align with their core values as a person. In my opinion a relationship isn’t something that lasts long term without shared values and opinions about what is important in life.
Yes! People who say “I don’t get involved in politics” or “politics don’t matter to me” are either (intentionally or unintentionally) ignorant and/or very privileged. The fact is that politics influence every day life for everyone.
yes they definitely matter. doesn’t mean you can’t be friends with or romantically involved with someone with different views. but it’s one thing to disagree about local zoning or tax rates, and a whole other to disagree with someone’s right to exist. some things are fundamental
In the past it didn’t matter much to me as long as the person wasn’t extreme. Since about, oh, 2016 that has changed. I now see someone’s politics as a direct reflection of a person’s judgement and morals. I even changed dentists because I no longer had faith in their judgement and guidance for the health of my teeth.
I couldn’t care less
I’m late 40s. Way back, nope. But these days it’s a moral obligation to me. So yes. Anyone ok with hurting others for their agenda aren’t my people.
“People seem not to see that their opinion of the world is also a confession of character.”-Ralph Waldo Emerson
Somewhere along the lines, we’ve commingled “politics” with “morals” and vice versa. I read a post on here not too long ago where the poster mentioned that their grandparents politics consisted of which county project should get the money from county taxes, and wouldn’t discuss it because they disagreed.
Those kinds of politics? Absolutely doesn’t matter. Politics as we know it today, where a single label tells you roughly where their moral compass points, matters significantly.
So yes. I’m glad to say my hubby and I agree on pretty much everything.
Also I’m not using politics again tonight. I used it way to much
Yes just as much as religion
I’m not a white person so it matters a lot to me. Very often disagreeing about politics corresponds to disagreeing about my humanity, and that’s a dealbreaker.
We can disagree on economic policy, but not on social issues. I won’t date someone who will vote against my human rights. Politics may seem negligible to you, but politics decides if I can use a public restroom, get married, get medical care, update my name and gender, or be tortured against my will as a minor (conversion therapy, and Blue Cross Blue Shield Federal Employee Program paid for me to be put through it, so your tax dollars, my tax dollars, paid for teenage me to be tortured). One isn’t more “mature” or less “superficial” by acting like “we can disagree on politics and still love each other” is a morally superior position.
Yes but only indirectly. The bigger issues for me involve compassion and empathy for others. How you feel about these will inevitably reveal on which side of the aisle you land.
Yes — just like religion, it’s important to have core values in common to build the foundation of a relationship.
Yes. While you can certainly have differing views about specific topics or how to address some topic, there are positions that are just a no-go. If the partner is willing to take food out of children’s mouths? That’s a major red flag. If a partner is against abortion but won’t lift a finger once the child is born to help a struggling family? End of relationship. A person who claims to be a “good Christian” but then does everything opposite of the teachings over the centuries? That person is not mentally healthy. I could never find common ground.
Beyond a doubt.
Extreme or hardened political views, which are often accompanied by a propensity to believe verifiably stupid shit, are a deal breaker. Irrational devotion to one’s political tribe, often caused by the regular consumption of biased information in one’s preferred echo chamber, is not worth the trouble in a relationship.
Regarding the current situation, we’ve seen and heard more than enough from Trump himself to know that his fanatical supporters are meant for each other and that reasonable people with standards and a functioning moral compass would be wise to avoid the cult.
Yes but:
Core values are more important. You can have major disagreements with “how” to fix something. To me agreeing the thing is broken is the important bit.
Now obviously, there are limits. If you two disagree on everything…probably not going to have a good time.
As you can see by the replies here, no you can’t marry a total nutjob who thinks everyone is out to get them and have it last.
100%. There are lots of political differences I can accept in a relationship, but some are non-negotiable. A lot of political stances/beliefs are based on your morals/ethics, and if you have incompatible morals/ethics, that can be a dealbreaker.
Even on some big issues, we can disagree. They believe that life begins at conception so their opinion is that abortion is murder? I can understand that belief, even though I’m pro-choice and disagree with their position.
However, even smaller discussed issues may be a sign we aren’t compatible. If they think it’s okay to send refugees to almost certainly die, without a trial or due process, well that violates my moral code and ethics, so it’s a bigger deal to me. We probably don’t have morals that we can agree to disagree on in that case.
Absolutely.
No. I have never asked my wife who she votes for.
Politics flow from values, so… Yeah, they matter a lot in a relationship
Politics are the condensed version of a person’s ideologies and world view. Hell yes that matters.
Friendship is a thing. You don’t live with the person and may avoid the problematic topics, as you will most likely see each others to have fun.
However in a relationship, it’s your common life, and is normally the person with whom you can talk about everything. Obviously you can argue and debate over little things, that’s healthy. But if the matters argued about are some values that you consider as basic, and your partner doesn’t share them, it’s going to be a dealbreaker.
Fuck yes. You can’t separate politics from people
I think level of involvement matters. People can agree to disagree and still be friends or partners. But if one or both people becomes really involved and politics starts to permeate everything and things get heated often, then it’s probably not going to work and is in the best interest of both people to break it off.
Moderation is key.
Very much so. I’m not even friends with social conservatives.
I’m trans lol.
One side thinks I’m represented by my community: so annoying we need to be voted off the internet, and the other might actually identify as a straight dude wanting to date me. It’s no contest.
We’ll just say “fuck you, don’t talk to me “, for a night, then continue on with loving each other. Ethics and morals is what matters. She can hate my terminator poster all she wants… but it make me happy and it’s not hurting anyone… and she’s aloud to fall asleep to twilight every night. It is what it is; we still love each other
Go back 15 years and I’d say it’s not that big a deal as long as they don’t believe anything too evil like poor views about gay people or something similar. Nowadays one side has been so anti human rights and even anti American truly I’d find it hard to reconcile. Even with family members the only way I can reconcile it is believing they’re just extremely fucking stupid. It’s either that or they’re bad people.
Honestly, it depends on how truly malleable of a person they are. Currently, I don’t like conservative policies because I am a firm believer in due process and human rights. If someone can come over to my side, or they can bring me over to theirs, then that’s healthy discourse at play.
It’s safe to say that we’re not experiencing healthy discourse in the US currently. It’s become the “financial stability or human rights” talking point. If you choose anything other than human rights, it brings your moral and ethical character into question. We shouldn’t be in a world where that became a reality, and it says a lot about the wider American populace.
So I suppose it does matter: I won’t touch a staunch conservative currently with a thousand foot pole. Maybe 5-10 years when their blood has cooled and they’ve softened, but not now.
Yeah, whoever you’re in a relationship with may be the person you raise a family with. I don’t have to have the exact same morals as my partner but we have to be in some agreement on what we pass down to our kids.
15 years ago? No. Today, yes. Too many people make politics their identity or they entangle political ideologies into their morals and ethics because they have nothing else and it takes over their personality.
Highly depends on the political view. I can easily look past some stuff and others are a hard no. Stuff like “Gay people should not exist?” Hard no. If it’s something small yeah. My wife and I don’t fully 100% agree on everything politically, but the major ones that affect our lives personally, LGBTQ+ friendly as an example, align. We would not be together if we didn’t. She’s a big supporter and has quite a few trans friends, I also an friends with a few LGBTQ+ people.
As long as she’s somewhere on the left side of the spectrum, I don’t care if her views differ from mine, lol.
Seriously though, politics result from values and ethics. Morality. Of course it matters. And nowadays it’s practically an intelligence test. I could never respect anyone who was a Trumper.
Yes, values matter more than anything else in a relationship.
Nope. Except for people who care way too much about politics, they’re miserable dum dums
My mom is middle and my dad is conservative and they have a good relationship. Politics causes a lot of stress at times. They’re both for people and for making the U.S a better place and God but certain topics and politics now just tire us out.
If I was to get married, my man doesn’t need to have every same opinion as me but I want him to be teachable, loving, good at listening, respectful, kind, and have his faith in God’s plan rather than a president or any person. Also don’t want somebody who’s super into politics. No way we’re putting a sign in our yard or watching the news 24/7. To care that much about politics is asking for unrelievable stress and conflicts.
it depends, do they disagree with me on trade policy, or disagree with me on the rights i should have as a human being
Yes. I can’t respect a man who is of the other party enough to be willing to date him. Our world views would be too far apart.
Yeah at this point. My son’s father wasn’t American so it didn’t matter so much but that was 15 years ago and it’s a different country now. I don’t mind someone being fiscally moderate but if you’re not left as far as social issues go you’re not gonna want to be in my house anyway.
Meh, its more about the core values than actual politics in a serious relationship. Idrc what side you vote for as long as we share the same values, theres just certain political leanings that have certain values.
My ex-husband is a Republican and I’m an independent who leans left, during our marriage. Politics was not an issue because he was actually pro-choice and reasonable about the second amendment. Probably because he’s a nurse. so that was not a problem in our marriage, his cheating was.
Fast-forward to Trump’s first term and he’s a fan. We were already divorced for several years by then, it really makes no sense to me as he has not changed his views on abortion, he is not against LBGTQA community. He has several family & friends who are gay, has 2 grandchildren who are trans-still reasonable on second amendment and that he believes not everyone should be allowed to own a gun. He is someone who loves camping and hiking and fishing.-so I really have no idea what the attraction is for him, but it would definitely not work for me.
I would not feel comfortable sleeping next to someone who is ok with snatching people off the street. So yes, it matters.
I think it’s the same as religion, couples should be like minded
It used to not matter. I felt like there could be a middle ground between two people on opposite sides, but now, no, that middle ground doesn’t exist anymore. I couldn’t date a Trump supporter or anyone with extremist views (regardless of what side they are on).
I think they need to align some. Complete overlap is not required.
Yes… people who act like political views aren’t a reflection of someone’s broader worldview and moral stance are being deliberately obtuse. You want someone whose values more or less match yours, that includes politics and other things like religion. If you’re an atheist don’t go dating a devoutly religious person, same thing…
Today, absolutely. If a person has no political opinion, I know they’re not conscious enough to care what happens to them. If they’re Republican, conservative, Christian right, or any other term that means this, I’m politely declining to converse with them. Nothing they say or believe will jibe with what I believe and that’s not just a fundamental thing, at this point, it’s my whole life. People who support Trump have lost the ability for self preservation and will to live in a free democracy. If they say they haven’t, they’ve been so deeply conned and brainwashed that I won’t be anywhere near them.
Yes oh yes. If you support a rapist I just walk away. It’s dangerous not to.
Yes, very much so. I don’t think I could have a long term relationship with someone I wasn’t on the same general page with.
lowkey it matters on core issues like vaccines but idrc if someone’s a George bush repub. like if we disagree on taxes idc but I do not want to bring my family around someone who might give my loved ones covid or worse
Absolutely. They aren’t separate from who you are as a person, you don’t get to believe horrible things just because it’s your political views.
My political choices are driven by my internal moral code. I’ve just always cared about the environment, animals, and other people. If your political opinions don’t match mine, it’s extremely likely your moral code also doesn’t match my own. Why would I want to date someone whose moral code doesn’t match with my moral code?
Yes, especially in today’s radicalized environment. It says something about you as a person if you actively support stripping people of their rights and their lives, it’s not just an innocent ‘oh I don’t like high taxes’
When I started dating my husband, the first thing my mother said to me was “I assume he aligns with you politically.”
How could it not matter?
Yes. If someone is fine with me being stripped of my rights so I might die if I get pregnant and something goes wrong, that’s a HUGE problem.
Ditto if he thinks he has the right to make my decisions for me just bc he has a penis.
“A house divided against itself cannot stand” – Lincoln
This applies immeasurably more for a relationship.
10000000% if we don’t agree, buh bye. I’m trying to raise compassionate human beings who are self less and are always looking to improve the world. There’s usually only one political party trying to achieve that.
Yes
Yes. It doesn’t need to be identical, we don’t need to agree on everything, we don’t even need to be voting for the same person (for countries that have more than 2 parties), but some things are non-negotiables. Especially when it comes to social issues and human rights
I don’t think you need to be on the same side of the party lines.. but I do think you have to agree on some of the foundational points that are important to both. Someone might feel more conservative due to economic factors, maybe they believe in less regulation, less government control, less taxes.. I think that can co-exist with a partner who feels that social services are important and they are okay paying more taxes to support those things, and that regulations keep greedy people in check, etc.. you can have nuanced convos and some of those are just like toss your hands up, you gotta pay taxes regardless, etc..
I think you run into trouble when it’s extreme sides of each, or when it’s more “value” judgments.. religious vs not, abortion vs not, equal rights vs not, etc etc.. those types of topics are more tied to how you view/navigate the world, and it’s far more challenging to look past someone who thinks they are superior to others just cause of their race they were born into, and you feel like everyone has value..
With that being said.. you see people ignore these differences all the time.. especially older couples where maybe the woman is more submissive to the husbands/parents political views than today’s woman as an example.
generally, probably not.
Unless they are either far right or far left im generally apathetic to political discussion/beliefs granted they can set aside talking about them 24/7.
Obviously if they make it a topic of discussion at every single meal then yeah id have an issue with it, just like id have an issue with any other topic if they were constantly talking about it.
Yes, they don’t all have to be exactly the same, just similar at the least
I believe that our political views are a reflection of our morals and values, and those things are very important to me. I could never date a conservative.