[19M] Since dropping out of university for mental health reasons I have serendipitously reconnected with a girl friendship group from school who I loosely knew through some other friends. Because I have very little to do, I have quickly become unhealthily attached to them, despite us realistically barely knowing each other outside of going to the same school. I feel like I am so desperate and needy when I am texting them and they aren’t reflecting the same energy from me. I need to let them go but I don’t know how because I really want our friendship to work. I consider them really cool people and have no girl friendships outside of this group. I’ve gone on nights out with them a few times but have felt out of place most of the time. Can I please have some advice to help me let go?
I’ve become completely attached to a new friendship group
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You’re not actually attached to them, you’re clinging to the idea of belonging after losing your footing. Mute the chats for a bit, focus on building one new hobby or space that’s just yours, and you’ll feel less like you’re orbiting other people’s lives.
You don’t need to let them go, you need to fill your life with other things so they aren’t the only thing you have going on. Take space, breathing exercises and meditation are helpful. Go on a nature walk and leave your phone at home. I find cardio really helpful when dealing with relationship-anxiety, starting to run or go on a long bike ride without checking social media/texts. Get a part time job, learn a hobby, do a martial arts class, go to the beach and work on your tan. There are plenty of ways to fill up your life so that your friendships are fulfilling but not all-encompassing