So yeah pretty much what the title says. I 20f transferred to a new Chick-fil-A location with my husband (27m) a few weeks ago and it is the worst working experience I’ve ever had in my life. Management is awful, there is no training dept. they don’t follow pathway (like honestly there are so many health code violations they should be shut down.) We transferred here because it was a good opportunity for my husband to build his story for LDP since there is so much to be fixed but it’s so bad I don’t know if I can do it. He wants me to stick it out with him so that he doesn’t get a bad rep there if I quit, but every morning before work I get so depressed and I’ve been feeling hopeless. Like I’m literally stuck here, and it’s making me genuinely depressed, and I’ve been having suicidal ideations because of it. I know it sounds stupid but I was even like 30 minutes late back from break yesterday because I couldn’t stop crying and had to call the hotline. I honestly want to call corporate and have them do a “CORE”. I am absolutely not exaggerating in any way, a Reddit post could not even begin to describe how poorly run this place is. It’s an embarrassment to the CFA brand in my opinion, because we love CFA and truly have a passion for it, but this has sucked all of that out of me. I’m just hopeless right now and don’t really know what to do.
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Pls seek therapy or a good group or a kind person to trust + talk to. You have hurt, anger, neglect, confidence and confusion issues that many people have who don’t get help. Get it for yourself to get to what hurts + pains you. Go now. Good luck.
You need to think about you. Don’t let the guilt from someone else decide what is in your best interest. You could get a job doing what you are doing anywhere. Find a healthy work environment for yourself and if somebody has an issue with it, then so be it.
No job is worth feeling like that over. Put yourself first, emotionally and physically. Your well being is so important.
You’re doing way better than I would in this situation. I mean, you’re talking openly about feeling hopeless and suicidal when your work is so bad it’s literally sucking the joy out of a job you once loved? That takes serious guts, man. Not many people could do that. You should be proud. Seriously, don’t let corporate or some manager push you around like this… I hope things get better for you soon, but if not, remember there are plenty of jobs out there that won’t make you want to die every day
Go ahead and call corporate. I’ve never worked at CFA myself but I know folks that have and one thing they are known for is taking reports of bad work environments seriously. Maybe that will get the mismanagement of your store sorted out. I’m not familiar with the abbreviation LDP…also, you finding another job should have no bearing on your husbands “reputation” as he puts it. People get different jobs and leave companies every day.
And in the meantime, you could start applying for other jobs around you. You shouldn’t stay somewhere that is weighing on your mental health so heavily. You are spending your break crying on the phone for Christ’s sake! You need to do what’s best for you…
If it’s that bad, you NEED to quit before it gets worse. Do some therapy, and tell your BF. Hang in there. Remember, problems are temporary. Suicide, is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Stay strong, and you’ll be fine. Just hang in there.
You need to leave for your health. I’ve been in this situation before and had a complete mental breakdown. You need to get out and take care of yourself. No amount of therapy or drugs is going to help until you escape from that toxic environment
Please give two weeks notice and leave this job.
Your husband’s reputation will not be that affected, and even if it is, your well being and life mean more then his reputation.
Please, seek therapy able get the hell out of they job before it kills you.
Quit go home. Recover and use AI to sound the issues out. Look for a better job!
Is anyone else at all going to call out the red flag of the 7 year age gap husband for an only 20 year old? I can’t imagine it’s just the job that’s doing the emotional damage here….
Can you take a medical leave effective immediately while you are able to focus on your mental and emotional well being and get some clarity on what you want to do. It is no one’s business why you are taking a medical leave. Personal info. You deserve to feel happy and well. Again it’s nobody’s business why you are on leave. This could buy you some time to sort things out and decide how you want to proceed. You shouldn’t have to go another day of feeling suicidal. You deserve rest and peace.
Quit. Quit. Quit. He’s being selfish telling you to stay there when you’re having the worst time of your life. There’s other jobs, it’s not worth it
OP, there is no shame in quitting. If you really are concerned about your husband’s reputation and want to “save face” you can always list your reason for resigning as health concerns. You can just thank them for the opportunity and let them know that you need to step away to take care of an unexpected medical issue. If they get upset about that, they will find anything to be upset about anyway
Quit yesterday please
First off, I’m really sorry you’re going through this. That sounds absolutely draining. Work should never get to the point where you’re feeling this way, especially when it’s affecting your mental health. It’s not “stupid” at all, this situation is clearly really tough on you. Please remember that no job is worth your well-being. If you’re calling the suicide hotline, that’s a huge sign you need support, and your mental health is way more important than anything work-related.
Your husband should understand that too, and if you’re truly miserable, you have every right to put yourself first. If that job is so bad, it might actually be better for both of you to cut your losses and figure something else out. And as for corporate, you definitely shouldn’t stay in an environment that’s that toxic just because you’re worried about someone else’s rep. It’s tough, but your health has to come first. Please reach out to someone who can help you make a plan, like a therapist or a trusted friend. You’ve got this, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.
Can you get another job somewhere else? Most people do not work at the same place as their spouse. But I know transportation could be an issue.
If you do call corporate, you need to have your complaints ready to go. Write them down and focus on violations of laws, health codes, and company policies. Try to avoid making it about “my boss sucks”.
You need to quit that job immediately. Your mental health is far more important than how your husband looks. If he can’t support you in this then maybe it’s time to reevaluate the entire marriage. I can tell you from life experience my wife was working a job that was doing the same thing she dreaded doing to work gave her anxiety and even though we couldn’t handle it financially I told her to leave the job. She is my priority and if you are his then what is there really
Work is secondary to your mental health💜
First, you need to talk to a professional, see if your brain levels and hormone levels are ok (they won’t be) and medication should help. Also, do call corporate. CFA is usually very strict with having the highest standards for food and management. I am sure there is a hotline number to call where you can be anonymous. I am so very sorry you are going through this.
Hi there I am so sorry to read about your terrible situation,first off please you need to seek professional help be it legal workplace advice or some sort of a councilor if even just to offload and vent ,I am over here in Scotland and we have lots of laws in place to stop workplaces being so very toxic,do you work full time hours for your company and do you do various shift rotas eg early back and night shifts , perhaps if you are doing long hours would it be possible to reduce your hours and use those extra hours you have to hand find a workplace with less hours and see if it’s better for you and if so gradually move away from this toxicity you are enduring,there is nothing wrong with calling a prevention helpline every day ,it’s a point of contact and they are there to help you in every way they can are you being supported by your partner,you made the sacrifice to follow him and it’s only fair he should give you all the support you need, please keep in touch on here and I’m usually always online if you need to talk .
Don’t go back. Send an email thanking them for the opportunity but you won’t be coming back. You owe them nothing. And your husband needs to take your health into consideration, if not well you can guess my answer to that too.