The past 9 months I 23 (M) have been catfishing 21 (F). It started with us meeting on a game and things just quickly escalated from there. Right when we met we connected.
At first we would spend a few times a week playing on our weekends staying up 8+ hours talking. It quickly grew to talking everyday 3+ hours once we got home.
There was never once an awkward silence. We just connected and matched each others energy. We could go on yapping about anything and everything and look at the time and realize we’ve been talking almost the whole night. This is what a soulmate feels like.
After that we would talk outside of the games everyday. We added each other on snap and other social messaging apps. We even made it “official” with each other, long distance thing.
She would send me live pictures/vidoes of herself. Send each other good morning/goodnight texts, reels, stay up, talk for 3-4+ hours a day after work for MONTHS.
She is hot. She always gets on by other guys. She even made a instagram post announcing she was taken and talked about me to her friends. Blonde, blue eyes, Christian, humble, super smart, she’s perfect. She’s the kindest person I ever “met”.
The problem is when I first added her I sent her a pic that wasn’t me. I’ve never had a girlfriend. Never had female interaction or friends. I’m not handsome and never really got compliments in my life.
But she makes me feel what I’ve been missing out on. “This is what love is supposed to feel like.” She makes me feel happy. But at the same time she wants to meet one day and I know the news will break us.
I don’t want to let her go, I can’t. Because I will just go back to being a lone loser. Empty.
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Seems you’re in an unresolvable dilemma. There’s no advice for that.
Good news! She’s almost certainly using a fake pic too.
You did not fall in love with her under false pretenses but you let her fall in love with someone who does not exist.
If you truly care about her, you will stop hurting her to comfort yourself. Love without honesty is still betrayal.
You are not a loser. But continuing this lie will turn loneliness into regret you can’t take back.
the only things that you can do is either cut contact or come clean and tell her. it’s not fair to either of you to continue this.
u/TrenSetterrr hire a professional photographer to take real candid photos of you at your best. Send her a more accurate picture of you. She has a 98 percent chance of leaving. However, if you are otherwise honest, and she is deeply interested, you may well survive.
Continuing this charade pretty much makes you a loser brother.
Good news though, it’s a curable condition.
You already violated her trust in a pretty heinous way and the only thing left for it is to come clean, wish her well and work on making yourself better than the dude who did this.
Making that choice immediately nullifies any loser status you had.
You use ai to slowly send her photos that look more like you
She prob lying too … suggest an in person or teams meeting to see what her reaction is…
Yikes.
My brother in Christ, I fear there is no hope here.
Tell her you have been catfishing her
You’re both catfishing each other lol
Are you saying you are not feeling like an empty, lonely loser currently, living with this lie that is inevitably gonna blow up in your face?
Clearly you have a good character en sociability that she enjoys, so that is one thing you have going for you right now.
But you got to work on self acceptance and improving yourself for you.
Otherwise, how can someone accept you, when you can’t even accept yourself yet.