I broke up with my girlfriend last week and I’ve been lying to everyone about why.
Truth is, I won a pretty substantial amount of money about 8 months ago ($750K after taxes) and kept it quiet. Only told her.
Almost overnight, she became a different person. Started planning these extravagant trips, talking about “our future” constantly, and pushing me to “invest” in her startup idea. She’d never shown interest in entrepreneurship before.
The final straw was finding texts to her friend about how she “finally found her meal ticket” and how she was “set for life” now.
When I confronted her, she cried and swore I misunderstood. But I’d seen enough. Her mask slipped.
Everyone thinks we broke up because we “grew apart” or whatever. I don’t have the energy to explain the truth and deal with all the questions.
It hurts like hell knowing someone I trusted for 3 years was just waiting for a payday. Now I’m questioning every relationship in my life.
Money really does show you who people are. Just wish I hadn’t had to learn that lesson the hard way. This is a throwaway because she knows my real username.
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Good for you big dawg! You’re also not obligated to explain anything to anyone. Enjoy that 750, maybe take a vaca or do something nice for yourself, i’m sure it’s deserved.
This seems fake
Definitely dodged a bullet there. Not to rain on your parade but 750k can vanish in an instant with multiple big purchases or failed start ups.
Money makes people weird. Don’t tell people. Just don’t.
Congrats on the win! Money changes people, some for the better, some for the worse. Glad you found out exactly who your ex was before you were married or kids… you dodged a bullet. Be smart with your new found fortune.. when you do find the one, get a prenuptial agreement before getting married. Good luck !
She sounds like a bitch
Wanna invest in my startup?
Jokes jokes jokes
You did everything right in keeping it quiet and i hope you continue to do so. Now go be really smart with your windfall and invest in your secure future.
And yes, it sucks right now and you feel hurt and out of sorts, but I would bet that some time in the near future, you will be glad your ex showed herself to you relatively early on. Now you will be ready to meet your true life partner when she comes in to your life.
You’re going to be alright!
It’s for the best. She overplayed her hand and in the process revealed her true intentions on how she sees the relationship.
Not even the decency to try and make this somewhat believable
First off, you did the right thing. Sorry you have to keep that to yourself, but that also seems like the right thing. Second, $750k is a life-changing amount of money, but it’s obviously not enough to live off forever, as I’m sure you know. I think you have a good head on your shoulders already, but be smart and invest, don’t spend it all in one place. You’ll find someone who deserves you.
you dont have to explain. you know what happened and having to deal with all the questions doesn’t change anything. keep the situation to yourself and try and use it as a learning experience
Money can bring out the worst in some people, both having and not having it can make their ugly side come out. At least you saw your girlfriend’s true colors before she became your wife.
Congrats on the win OP
Better to let people think this rather than the truth.
If they knew the truth, they’d know you had money, and then they’d be coming around with their hand out.
If you tell why you really broke up, other people may change after they hear that. Just keep quiet, don’t waste the money and be happy to have a very good backup stack of money!
I’ll just say that $750K invested in US Treasury Bills currently returns $32K/year, state tax exempt (still have to pay federal tax). T-Bills can be purchased for as short a duration as 4 weeks and you can set up automatic renewals for up to 2 years. It’s a good way to park the money and earn some interest while you figure out what you want to do with it.
I feel like I’ve read this before.
Sucks that this is the case man, hopefully no one else you tell does you like this
You did right. Proud of you mate.
She showed her true colors. Thank God and the stars above you never had kids with her.
It’s a lot of money, yes. But not ‘set for life’ money. She’s crazy.
You aren’t out of the clear yet. Money brings out the worst in some people, and if they feel entitled to it, they’ll take any measure to get it.