Okay, this might sound really petty, but I’ve been pretending to be bad at something for weeks now just to get attention. I’m actually pretty good at cooking, but I’ve been acting like I have no idea what I’m doing whenever someone asks me to make something. I’ll “accidentally” burn food, mess up a recipe, or act all frustrated like I don’t know how to use a pan. The thing is, people always try to help me, and I love the attention. It’s kind of pathetic, but I can’t stop. At this point, I’ve created such a “bad cook” persona that no one ever expects me to make anything good anymore.
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You’re honestly a genius. I might try this next time I want people to help me out more. 🤣
i do this, not for the attention, its so i dont get made to cook.
i grew up in a household that heavily pressured gender norms. ive had this chirade going my whole life (f35) and everyone thinks i cant cook. i bring secret snacks to family gatherings so i can deal with whatever comes.
That sounds kinda pick me to me 😭
Just say you don’t want to cook and don’t play mind games?
this will be really annoying and damaging if you bring it into a relationship or use it against people. look up “weaponized incompetence”
dealing with people like this as a roomate or partner is the most insufferable situation possible
What do you think you’ll do if someone figures out you get off on manipulating people? Because that could happen and my guess is it will be deeply awkward for you.
Weaponized incompetence is immature and stupid. Cut the bullshit, it’s not cute.
I suck at cooking. So, you intentionally waste good food by poor preparation??? That’s stupid.
Kinda like my uncle pretending he didn’t jerk off my cousin for a dimebag
I used to do this when I was a kid lol. There are a lot of things I did as a kid that I had to learn to stop doing in adulthood, like things I didn’t recognize as harmful for whatever reason. Including attention seeking behaviors too. I don’t know how old you are. I’m in my early twenties and I’m still learning.
I’m sorry that people are being mean! I’ve seen people receive so much kindness over the worst of confessions, and yet with something like this (which isn’t THAT serious imo) people forget how to be compassionate.
If I were you, I wouldn’t confess, lol. I would gradually phase out the lie. Start talking about how you’ve decided it’s important for you to learn how to cook because it’s an adult life skill. Casually mention that you tried out a new recipe and it went well. Bring a friend a dish you made yourself, and have them try it. That way eventually they’ll see you as someone who knows how to cook.
Maybe this is manipulative too but I don’t see a need for a big confession, it would just cause drama and you may even lose friends. Instead I would quietly correct the mistake and take it to the grave.
And try seeking positive attention instead! Maybe for karmic reasons you could become the best cook in your friend group. Make up for the lying by making their tastebuds happy after all that time they spent helping you. They’d be grateful I’m sure.
Weaponized uselessness. Google it.
Are you an adult? This isn’t cute. If you’re a teen you need to cut the crap now before you’re an adult, if you’re an adult you need therapy. This is manipulative and will be detrimental to relationships around you if this continues.