I’ve gotten a girl pregnant. I’m not ready to have a kid at all. She won’t consider an abortion and is hell bent on keeping the baby. I don’t think she understands the situation and if underestimating the situation.
I don’t know what to do. I can’t have a kid right now. I’m only 19 I’ve suffered from drug abuse for years and a number of other problems.
I’ve got ptsd and I just needed a break for one day. I got drunk and ruined my life in just a day. I don’t even know her that well.
I don’t have any family or a support system.
I am literally mentally unstable and cannot hold down a job let alone raise a child.
I was just on track of getting better. Just feel like I was finally getting my life together now I’ve gone and done something stupid and everything will come tumbling down.
I’m based in the uk if that makes a difference. I just feel so alone, I’m scared I’ll go back to old habits.
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🤷🏻♀️ if you weren’t ready for a kid you should have been more responsible with protection. Even one time without it can cause a pregnancy. If she won’t get an abortion then there’s nothing you can do. You don’t have to be involved in the kids life but you will be responsible financially.
Should have worn a condom. Now get a job and prepare to raise a kid.
You’re at a crossroads mate. A fork in the road. Something that happens to all of us, sometimes more than once in our lives. You can never control everything that happens to you in life. But you can control your reaction and future behaviors.
You need to get yourself straight and find a way to stay that way. It doesn’t start tomorrow or in a few months. It starts right this second. Take control from here and make some positive decisions that your future self will thank you for. This is up to you but may include landing a job, going back to school, getting a certification, or heading to therapy….or all of the above.
You are not helpless or swirling in the wind. You are in control of your future starting now. Start making the right decisions.
“I don’t think she understands the situation” no you don’t understand the situation. You’re a self proclaimed mess and you assume she’s like gonna move in with you? You better learn how to hold down a job because every month you need to make a child support payment. This might be news to you but they can jail deadbeat dads
The advice I’ve read so far is absolutely abhorrent. OP, you need counseling. You need advice from somebody far older than you to help you deal with this situation. “Time to man up”; thanks Reddit for your useless advice. This 19 year old kid is in a troublesome situation and that’s all you have to share? Don’t bother posting anything at all.
Get counseling, any and all advice you’ll find here is internet nonsense