I am a college student and have never had a romantic relationship with anyone. I have had plenty of talking stages but once the guy gets to know me, we slowly separate. I would love to be in a relationship but it almost seems like no one will date me because of my personality. Not to sound egotistical but people hit on me all the time because of my appearance. Once they get to talking to me, they’re turned off. It makes me feel like I have no personality or I’m just uninteresting. I never thought I would become insecure of my personality but here I am. I am a very kind and sweet girl but my character doesn’t seem to be enough. Any tips or advice?
I’ve never dated anyone and I’m embarrassed
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Many people go through similar experiences, and it doesn’t define your worth or who you are! Remember, dating can be a tricky journey for anyone, and sometimes it just takes time to find the right person who appreciates you for all that you are. It’s great that you’re aware of your kind and sweet nature—that’s such a beautiful quality! Maybe try focusing on activities or groups where you can meet people who share your interests. This way, you’ll have common ground to build on from the start. Also, don’t hesitate to let your personality shine through in conversations; share your passions and what makes you unique!
As someone who was constantly told “speak up” “you’re so quiet” etc while growing up… I always wondered if something was wrong with me or maybe I’m just not like-able. Wrong! Love who you are 🫶🏼
The right person will absolutely adore you at your core for who you are.
For every talkative person there is a good listener, and so on and so forth.
Your feelings are totally valid and I wouldn’t mind betting it feels lonely and disheartening, and I’m sorry you’re experiencing this but trust me it WILL get better.
It’s kind of like, filtering out the ones who don’t appreciate/value you, you know what I mean? Give it time, someone will come around- likely when you least expect it but don’t rush into it!
My husband and I met completely by chance, across an ocean! So my point is, don’t lose hope and continue on your own journey of self-discovery and self-love… continue focusing on yourself and the things that matter to you and you will eventually find someone!
Sending lots of positive energy ✨
don’t worry, there’s lots of guys that are into the quiet shy type
not everyone is after the cheerleader