Hey reddit ..
I just need some advice in this regard because i’ve never dealt with it.
I (F27) started dating this amazing guy(M27), we vibe SO good together and it honestly feels like he’s the one (when you know you know and all that) but we had our first intimate experience and I discovered he has a micro penis.
The thing that worries me the most is that he isn’t very experienced (has only had sex a couple of times in his life) and I worry that it just won’t go in and or he doesn’t know how to use it? I’m also fat so wondering if it just literally won’t reach.
I like him so much, and this is NOT a dealbreaker for me at all, i’m still super attracted to him. I’m just worried about our first time and how to make sure it goes okay. I would never want him to feel inadequate or embarrassed or anything.
Sex is really important to me, i’m a very intimate person, so I just want tips to make it good still with our situation.
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I would just go with the flow. Make sure that your pleasure is prioritized as well, and if penetration isn’t feasible, then find other ways that you can both be satisfied. Open communication when it comes to pleasuring you and how he can do that will be important.
Sex can be so much more that PinV. It’s about exploring each other. Hands, mouth, toys, all can be incorporated in the bedroom. Don’t let your anatomy stop you from having a good time 😉
First off, props to you for caring more about connection than size—seriously, that already puts you ahead of half the planet. Focus on foreplay, mutual pleasure, and toys if needed, but mostly just talk to him openly and kindly so he knows it’s a team thing, not a performance test
If sex is important to you than I can’t imagine this will ever workout in the long term
Search out different positions which provide angles for the best or maximum penetration
Intimacy is not just about sex, to me you already made it a deal breaker
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Well his tongue, toys, and other options exist.
As long as he does that stuff and is open to that stuff carry on.
Though, as you say sex is very important, sooo as long as you are happy with him never being able to “fill” or maybe even “reach” you, it shouldn’t be an issue.
A micro penis…. I’d stay celibate just hell to the no.
Don’t do it. If you’re not sexually compatible, you’ll cheat or leave him. Don’t do it.
You could teach him and guide him? I don’t really get women who are worried when their partner isn’t experienced.. like why not experiment together? I found men with less or no experience much more willing and flexible to trying stuff than some experienced ones who insists doing it their way.
I think you’re already highlighted – you are attracted to him, and you care how he experiences the sexual side of your relationship
So it seems like this is more a question of how to make him feel comfortable and enjoy things…
Given this, I think your enthusiasm, verbal and physical encouragement and afterwards reassurance is key to making him feel wanted and appreciated in this
It’s gonna be like mashing a pillow into another pillow
Losing weight will definitely help
I think it’s up to the two of you to decide how this will effect your relationship. If you are able to get the sexual satisfaction you need, then there isn’t a problem. If you are not sexually compatible, it probably won’t work out. It sucks, but not everyone is meant to be together.
As far as sex goes, I would just talk it out, check in with each other while you’re doing stuff, and maybe do some research to see what works best?
How small we talking?
What ever you do, do not lie to him about sex. Including how experienced you are. Lies cause irreparable harm.
When you say micro penis was it hard at the time?
When you say micropenis was it hard at the time?
A micro penis is really a tough situation. I dated a dude that was so small and he was really good at other things but he also didnt associate his size to his fertility so despite our best efforts at using condoms, they just didnt fit and he ended up getting me pregnant.
I know alot of ppl are downvoting this issue but its really worth talking about and definitely being safe in the long run. You dont need to be a size queen to have concerns about long term compatibility here
This is why fat chick’s go for black dudes
How do you even know his size without sleeping with him? Are you the guy?
If he’s inexperienced then maybe it’s just stage fright, he could be a grower but not a show-er; meaning he’s not packing heat during routine activities, but come sexy time and the mini-carrot is suddenly a cucumber. Perhaps once he settles in, those 2 inches you expect could turn into 7 or 8.
If not, then I’m sure you can figure something out if you really care for the dude. Hope it works out.
I went through a similar situation when I was much younger and dumber than I am now and I still feel bad about ending things. We certainly weren’t as serious as it sounds like you two are, and as such hadn’t yet developed such a strong connection. However, the combination of the micropenis and completely sucking in all other aspects of foreplay led me to break up with him without even trying anything to make sex enjoyable for us both.
In your situation I would absolutely suggest trying anything and everything, including toys.. Especially since you seem like you truly care for him, So much so that you are questioning whether or not he is “the one”. That type of connection we simply don’t throw away! 💯
49 days later….😂😂😂can’t help but notice you just got out of a long term relationship, im goin through a breakup now and its been a month, I wonder if she even waited a full 2 weeks? I can’t even imagine touching another women no time soon, gonna just use this pain to get me throu my glow up and cutting out some bad habits. As far as micro penises go, I’d say if you want this to work be understanding and try to be in it for the moment as far as you’re pleasure goes, meaning if he disappoints you sexually try to not show it or say it out loud until you guys find a rhythm that works, and if you can’t find that then leave that man alone so he can find his true match.
Been there. It was tough.
Then experiment with him. Ask if what he’d like. Probably does know for sure since he’s kinda inexperienced. This could be a lot of fun. Laughing, joking, playing around can make y’all relationship much stronger. When u reassure him that we’re in this together most likely he’ll let his guard down and start trusting u, which is huge (no pun intended) n any kind of relationship. U said that U r fat so allow him to explore your body n perhaps he won’t feel uncomfortable with his! Good luck n happy experimenting.
No hate but if you cared more about connection you would not have made this post. Respect him enough to leave so he can find someone who would not do this.
I mean you had sex right? Did you feel it or not? As long as you both get off his size is irrelevant
Been there, dump him. Having sex with a micro penis feels like you’re being stabbed with a tube of chapstick. Some women might enjoy it but I did not
Oh my God. Girls worry just like we do. We, guys, or I at least worry about the same thing. I don’t have a micropenis and never had a complaint but still I worry about the reaching or not getting hard. If we both quit being nervous and be honest with our insecurities to each other, you’d probably find a whole new pleasure in relief . A new experience should be fun and stress-free
been discussed elsewhere, but if PiV is something ur super invested in, they sell “dick extensions.” the ones off the top of my head are from bad dragon, so maybe u could suggest it from that angle to spare his feelings