Me (female, 19) and my bf (19) have been together for over 2 years and we have trustful relationship with open communication and quite the maturity for our age. My bf is really into art & music and creates music himself. Today we were hanging out outside together and two girls passed by us (around our age or younger) and one of them randomly sang. Her voice was pretty and my bf liked it. After we passed by them, my boyfriend asked me what I would think in a situation if he went up to her, complimented her, and asked if he could for example sample her. I said, it would make me feel uncomfortable, yet I dont know if it reasonable or unreasonable to feel insecure about it and whether it is wrong to think that way or even if my bf is in the wrong(which I doubt?). Please tell me your opinions, I need another perspectives. Am I even a bad girlfriend for this?
Extra info, I feel uncomfy by the idea that in theory, if he would do it, it wouldnt be on a professional “level” but rather on a casual one. Because my bf is yet a boy with a dream that he wants to fullfill. He doesnt have a team or a studio, which probably would mean that in this scenario they would need to either go to his place or meet up somewhere for this to happen and Im extremly uncomfy with this idea. If he would have a studio and be already a “fullfledged” musician, I wouldnt mind him asking randoms he seems fit to develop his art.
TL;DR:My bf considered to talk to a random girl and sample her voice which makes me uncomfy. Is it reasonable for me to feel that way or is it unhealthy jealousy; need your opinions. (this summary isnt good sorry:,)
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I don’t believe you’re a bad girlfriend for this and investigating why you feel this way would be a great learning moment for you in why you feel this way. You said you have a trustful relationship and that he’s into music. I’m assuming he wanted to sample her voice for his music and if this is the case I wouldn’t find anything wrong with what he did. Maybe she has a beautiful voice that he thought would be perfect for a song? I don’t believe this was a dig at you at all just his passion for music and it gave him an idea.