Just curious if anyone else’s JNMIL tacks her children using the Find My app. It is literally an obsession with my JNMIL. She tracks my husband and brother-in-law and has nothing better to do than to constantly see where they are or where they are going. I’ve seen her do it to my brother-in-law when she has been at my house (he lives on the opposite coast) and she stalks and comments on his every move, especially when he is on vacation or traveling for work.
Years ago, when my in-laws lived states away, my JNMIL and I followed each other on Find My because it was helpful when they would make the trip driving to us. I could see where they were and how much longer they had to drive. That “following” stopped a few years ago when my JNMIL would text me every time she saw that I was staying home from work. I would get immediate texts from her asking what was wrong, if my kids were sick, or if we had Covid. It was ridiculous and nosey, and I unfollowed her which meant she lost access to me, too. She apparently asked my husband what happened and questioned why she didn’t have access to me anymore, and he intially blamed it on me “resetting” my phone. In conversations with her since then, though, I have mentioned that I don’t want anyone following me.
I got so irritated this weekend because she still follows my husband and group texts us about our outings. We went to test drive a car on Saturday and an hour after we were there, she texts “What’s at CarMax?” “Are you getting a different car?” (We didn’t respond). Two hours later…”What’s going on?”
My husand responded and said, “We looked at a car. ” She responded, “Are you going to buy it?” “We don’t know,” my husband said. I just can’t get over how nosey and stalkerish this is. Like she outs herself and has no problem with us knowing that she’s following us. Why does she think any of this is her business? I so wanted to respond in the group text and question how it is her business, but I usually stay silent and let my husband respond. My husband goes through waves of defending and getting angry at her behavior. He chalked up the weekend stalking to the fact that she’s bored and has nothing better to do. They moved closer to us almost two years ago (in the same state an hour away), and I can’t help but think that she stalks him to see what he’s doing that is so important and takes precedence over spending time with her. Does anyone have a similar situation?
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