So my (32) parents (72f and 73m) live with my brother and his family (45m 44f 20m and 15f). The house is owned by my parents. This is a cultural lifestyle and a joint family. Brother pays for all expenses except house insurance. Parents have paid off the house and currently use the rental income from the basement as supplemental income to their pension. Dad also has one vehicle. Property in india as well that belongs to him and is ancestral.
Brother has two homes he has rented out. One of them pays for itself, the other requires a couple hundred to keep it going. They have three vehicles.
Brother and sis in law make about 120k a year easy. They have side jobs too but this is based off of their actual full time jobs alone. Brother and sis in law have recently taken issue with paying for everything and want parents to pay. Parents make a collective 25k a year and do not take money from bro and his income. Brother and father have always had some issues but brother will not seperate. I think its because he doesn’t want to lose the rental income. Parents and I raised their kids while they worked which is all good and dandy. Thats what family is for. But now its just becoming gross where they are wanting to be the rulers of the home essentially. Mom had knee surgery 3 weeks ago and my neice and I have been doing most tasks. Sis in law and bro have barely been present. Didn’t even take days off to help. They recently had a whole fit ehere they said parents didn’t do enough and are not supportive. Mind you my father came to Canada when he was 23 and mom made it over when she was 40. She lived almost two decades without her husband or any income just so our lives could be made. I was born in 1993 and brother stayed back in india due to some immigration issues. He finally made it over in 2003 after a long legal fight and over half a million in legal fees spent. Parents then pid for his wedding, a new and bigger home (the one they live in now, paid off) and raised their two kids.
Now i get paying for everything is hard especially in Vancouver Canada but i asked my brother if there are any expenses that they have just because of my parents. He said no. They eat simple food, no special meals, do not have special requests. Buy their own clothing, pay for their own phones and car. They also pay the home insurance.
Technically after doing simple math and very liberal budgeting brother should be saving over 50k a year. Thats just recent cause up until 10 years ago finances were split and parents had majority expenses. They basically lived free before that. But now they say they have no money? I understand the support part as indian parents will throw money at things but will rarely say I am here for you. But never would I imagine asking my parents to pay for shit while I earned 4 times as much as them.
I am married and have my own home and am more of a mediator in this situation.
I just don’t understand whats going on?
Tl;dr brother wants parents to pay for expenses while he earns 5 times as much as them and lives in their paid off home and threatens to move but doesn’t actually even though he has two homes fully rented out.