just a rant

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Hi guys, i (M22) just wanted to make a quick rant for my long distance (F23) girlfriend of 2 years. She’s from the Philippines and she’s been living alone in an apartment trying to make a living due to toxic family problems. Her mom passed away and her dad is a toxic father ever since and he doesn’t care about his own children. He abandoned his 3 kids and let them live on their own separately. Her grandparents milk her for money, and has a hard time ignoring her.

My girlfriend’s salary is only enough for her rent and she would even skip some meals to save money. She hasn’t even been working at her new job for 1 year yet and they’re already giving her a hard time, she does recruitment and her boss is toxic and doesn’t listen to their team members’ problems and feedback. She told me that 2 other members that were hired the same time she did, quit due to that. Now they’re overloading my girlfriend with more tasks and they don’t listen to her. My girlfriend is sad and crying now

because she really wants to leave that job, but she knows she can’t because she wouldn’t be able to pay for rent or food. I try to help her as much as I can but I’m not financially capable to do so. I love her so much and I hate to see her sad and stressing. I can really feel her pain throughout all she’s been through and currently going through. She has friends and i hope that they’re making her feel better in someway, im sure she rants to her friends too about her life but i know for sure that she doesn’t ask for help or anything because she knows its her problem and shouldnt involve others. That’s why i really wish she won’t have more problems coming her way. Her toxic dad was already enough and just that her job is being an a** is making the situation worse. I told her that she should find a new job before she quits and she’s really like going through it. I had to type this while she’s crying on call with me. What should I do now?
TL;DR: my girlfriend is stressed about her life and i dont know what to do

Comments

  1. Complete_Hat6078 Avatar

    Just be there, listen to her. Be a safe space and a relief from the harsh world. Her telling you about her problems doesn’t mean you need to solve them. She just needs you to listen.
    It can be draining when all you do is listen to your partner vent so make sure to take time for yourself too.