Just because someone doesn’t want to spend time with you when you want to spend time with them, doesn’t mean its meant to be an insult towards you. Its ok for someone to say no and then do nothing without you.

More and more as society becomes less and less physically social with each other I find that people take things personally that really aren’t personal and this is one of those things.

Whether its a relationship, close friendship or close family, if you want to hang out, go out, whatever, and you know they have nothing scheduled but they still say they have something scheduled or just say that they’re good, they don’t want to go out or hang that day/night, there’s much more of a chance that means they just want some time to rot and recharge and are NOT saying they don’t want to spend time with you specifically. Even if its a whole weekend, maybe they just want to work on their car, or binge watch a show or eat a bunch of wings, its probably not an insult directed to you that they want to spend time on their own.

People need to recharge and, especially if they’re more inverted, but even extroverts and omniverts need this time to chill by themselves and because you happened to ask them to hang when they were already planning to rot, it may seem like its meant to be an insult but its probably not, don’t read so much into it. Most people are so in their own head, they’re not thinking of all the possible ways that you will take “no, I’m busy”, they’re just looking forward to ordering some buffalo wings and watching some crap on hbo all weekend.