I (20f) just broke up with my boyfriend (21m) yesterday and even though I’m the one who left, I keep getting these waves of extreme sadness and I just find myself bawling my eyes out even though I wanted to break up for a while but I thought I could move on. He was my first love and also the first boyfriend I ever had. He was very caring and a good person but also a bit toxic and controlling and jealousy always got the better of him, we had been together for only 6 months but he became a very big part of my life and we used to talk for hours daily and did almost everything together and maybe I got too attached. It also doesn’t help that we’re the same major and we used to spend all day together in university and attend all lectures and labs together. He didn’t want to break up but I just knew I wasn’t comfortable and wasn’t myself with him. My family has been supporting me a lot especially my mom she is the most person who understands me but still I feel like no one will ever understand how painful all of this is. Please if anyone has any advice on how to handle this I would appreciate it, thank you so much ♥️
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My advice might not be great, but breakups like that will always be hard at the start if he was your first, you just have to trust your choice, you said yourself you werent comfortable, and you have to listen to that feeling. He had traits that weren’t healthy and as someone who’s also been on the receiving end of a controlling boyfriend, you’ll seriously thank yourself later for ending it now rather than before you’re in too deep. It’ll take time, sure, but you’ll be okay. In the meantime, distracting yourself can help, maybe focus on hobbies you like or pick up a new one, that helped me a while ago🤍
Girl, you did what you felt needed done. Don’t feel bad about that! Breakups are hard, no matter how many you go through. You’re not mourning the (what sounds like a toxic) relationship. You’re mouring, not having that person there anymore. It takes time. Time to heal from the toxic behaviors and time to find yourself again. Give yourself the time needed. Hypothetically, it will take anywhere from 1 to 3 months to get over a 6-month relationship. When you find yourself missing the companionship you had with him, text a different friend, get out and do something you like doing that you couldn’t while dating him. Give yourself grace and be patient, it won’t magically get better overnight, but it will get better! YOU GOT THIS!