Do women really prefer men who are taller than them? Like much taller? I myself never liked men who are too tall (my bf is 6 cm(~2 inch) taller than me). Couples around me are also very close in height, height difference is 10 cm(~4 inch) max on both ends. But I see women on internet that say they prefer men who are tall, like very tall, especially compared to them, I see women who are like 140-160 cm (4’5 – 5’2 ft) tall and say they prefer men who are like 190 cm (6’2 ft) and up. I also heard about studies that say most women prefer very tall men. I understand it’s preferences and all, but it seems inconvenient to both? Am I living in a bubble? Are you that woman? If so can you share your experience. I’m also want to point out that I’m not saying short women or average height women can’t be with tall men, but in my experience it’s not the majority of women
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I don’t have a height preference personally. I’ve dated shorter than me, same ish as me, and much taller than me. That said, I’m also pan which means the prominent difference between men and women is not important to me either. I don’t know if that plays a role but I’ve always felt like it does.
As a woman who is only 4’11” this is not normally something I have ever had to think about….but now that you ask I would not be comfortable with a man the same height as me. My husband is 6ft
Preference? Sure, but that’s because taller dance partners are nice when you dance as a follower. I don’t date, so I don’t actively look for it, but men that are too much taller are intimidated. Most couples around me the men are 5-10 cm taller.
I don’t have a height preference. If I like the guy, I like the guy. I’ve dated short and tall. Height had nothing to do with any relationship that didn’t work. My fiancé ended up being 6’2. I am 5’9.
I don’t care much abt height, for me its how a body comes together that’s attractive or not. Nice proportions, muscular legs, and less body hair are more interesting to me than height. And a gorgeous face and/or great hair trumps everything else (looks-wise). The hottest man I dated (by face) was 5’5″ and I’m 5’6″ and wear heels a lot. Honestly many tall guys are kinda awkward-looking or have skinny legs.
Personally, I prefer men to be slightly shorter than me. I’m 183cm, my husband is about 177cm. I very rarely see couples with a /huge/ height difference in real life. I do know one pair, and the woman is very short (sub 150).
The thing about 6ft tall guys is… half of them are 5’ 9’’
I’m pretty tall for a woman, and have a larger frame, so I never feel particularly small, so I don’t have any real preference for height. My husband just so happens to be maybe 2 inches taller than me and about 15 lbs lighter and we’re both fine with it because that’s just how it is. Doesn’t affect much of anything, except that his hoodies fit me perfectly (just ever so slightly too big on me).
I do have a friend who’s barely 5 feet who will only date 6ft+, and seems to make selections based entirely on looks. It has not gone well for her results-wise.
I’m tall – 186 cm or 6’1 ‐ and i’ve always liked partners who were max 10 cm shorter/taller or the same height. (Obviously i don’t dwell on exact numbers lol.) But i’m also bi, so i don’t really insist on heteronormative stereotypes, and i’ve always known many couple where the woman was taller or they were closer in height, so i’ve never considered it something weird.
Ofc there are going to be women who want to have taller partners, however i don’t think it’s as frequent as red pillers or the feminity coaches make it seem.
i’m a little chubby/curvier and that’s why i prefer to date men that are taller than me (im around 5’3 so anything above that is fine, i really don’t care) because i get a little self conscious when im bigger than a man i’m seeing so i think id crash out if was bigger AND taller than him
I’ve talked about this with different women in my life. Most of us just don’t want to feel “bigger” than the man we’re with.
For me it’s not a deal breaker, or a filter, but how we fit in person. I’ve dated taller and shorter guys with a football/rugby wide frame, and tall guys with a thin frame. Those feel right.
However guys who are shorter than me and also smaller framed usually just don’t feel right. And I’d be the first to acknowledge that it’s probably a combination of my own insecurities and whatever a psychologist would read into having a tall dad as a role model of “normalcy”.
I’ve never had a preference and have dated all heights. My husband now is shorter than me at 5ft 4. I have certain friends who definitely won’t date shorter guys and are very vocal about it in a way that to be honest is quite offensive.
I’m 5’2” and I can honestly say height has never been a factor. Kindness, humour, and intelligence is pretty much all I’ve ever cared about.
I’m 5′ 9″ and my husband is 5′ 7″ so. No.
I actually find tall men intimidating. Almost all of my crushes were within a few inches of me.
I do prefer taller men but this is because I am so small that males the same height or shorter than me are likely to be below legal age
I leave preferences like that to roleplay and hentai. Both of my partners are shorter than me (I’m tall at 5’10) but our OCs are very much opposite (my OC is 5 foot even, and their OCs are closer to 6). Since height has nothing to do with personality or ability to be yourself, I don’t think about it.
When I was young (high school) I cared about things like height. Once I started having adult relationships and learned more about compatibility, the less I cared about things that a person couldn’t control.
Now being a shorter woman (5’3), I haven’t often struggled to find partners taller than me. But being bisexual, my partners height doesn’t factor into my attraction to them.
I dated a couple of men being 25ish centimeters taller than me, hitting the 2m mark. It’s definitely a different feeling and most of the time I don’t mind that, yet often enough guys my height/slightly taller/shorter seem to be more put off by my appearance as opposed to the taller guys.
I think society really pushes tall men/short women. I have heard a lot of women say that they find those couples aesthetically pleasing. I am 5’1 and the guys I have been with usually fall in the short to average range. The tallest guys were 5’11 to 6′ and they were slouchers with back problems so that got old. My husband is 5’5 and I think everything works out better since we are both short. Our mattresses and furniture are never an issue, and I fit perfectly in his hoodies/lounge wear.
I definitely prefer tall men. I’m 5’7 and husband is 6’4. But it’s not a dealbreaker, just a preference
I have a height preference, but I fully acknowledge it to be an insecurity issue on my own behalf. I’m a pretty tall woman and I’m a millennial, so I grew up hearing the messaging that “big was bad”. This adds up to me needing my partner to make me feel small. To make a 5’10” woman feel small, you’ve basically got to be at least 6’3”.
I’m honestly working on it. I recognize it as something that probably holds me back from a large portion of the dating pool – and also I just want whatever confidence is needed to not care about that. But yeah, the shortest of my LTR’s has been 6’3”.
I have a preference for a bigger presence. Doesn’t have to be a foot taller than me, but a couple of inches of height, broad shoulders, nice arms, and an overwhelming presence, yes please.
Personally I didn’t have a height preference until I started online dating in my mid-30s. Then I had a lot of negative experiences with men who clearly had strong feelings about my height, and were often dishonest about theirs. I got screamed at in a cafe once for wearing kitten heels because it was apparently ‘disrespectful’ to a man who had lied on his profile about being three inches taller than me.
It made me much more wary of men who claimed they were close to my height. I’m all for dating a man who is shorter than me, and who doesn’t police my footwear or my posture, but I won’t date one who does.
I’m on the upper end of average for a woman, and if I were to date, I would prefer to date someone at least an inch or two taller than me. If we’re walking with arms on shoulders/waists, I would prefer to be the tuckee (their arm on my shoulder) rather than the tucker (my arm on their shoulder). This applies to both men and women. I have been known to be down bad for tall women with short hair 🫠
I do have a height preference. I prefer taller than me by about 3-5 inches. I find that that’s what works the best in terms of chemistry and also cuddling/sex/holding hands, etc. But it’s not a hard preference.
Honestly not really. I’ve been mostly with taller men 5’11” and up but I wouldn’t mind being with someone my height, shorter or slightly taller. I’m 5’5″ for reference so kind if tall.
I’m a hair under 5’5″. I prefer men over 6′, however that’s a preference not a rule. I’ve dated guys from 5’9 to 6’4″, and their height wasn’t a critical factor in the success or failure of the relationship.
From a physical attraction perspective, Alan Ritchson is my ideal and that build just looks better on taller men – hence the preference.
My only preference in height is that they’re taller than me, and at almost 5’4″, that’s quite a few men who are. I’ve dated 5’9 to 6’1″ in heights, give or take.
For me, being 5’10, curvy woman, i prefer a man who is taller than me, 6’0 -6’4 is perfect. I have dated smaller men, but find it causes issues in that I feel reluctant to wear heels around them / they feel insecure about their height/I feel larger than I am.
All of which are issues I tried to work through and am still.working on but ultimately found i prefer, if possible a man be taller than me if we are to be in a romantic relationship.
I want to feel “small” for once in my life and also find body parts align better. Would I disregard a shorted man? Not at all but for long term I am factoring in height, along with attraction, personally, intellect, emotional intelligence and social awareness. Probably why I am single!!
I’m 5’2/157cm.
Generally, I prefer a guy to be around 5’4-5’9″. It’s not a rule, though. I’m not whipping out the tape measure.
I don’t think I’ve met a man shorter than me, so it’s not something I’ve considered, but i dont think it would be a deal breaker for if I found him attractive or not.
Honestly, being quite small, I don’t see height as an improvement. I’d actually say it’s a minus for me. I see people like 6’4″+ and just think they look kinda odd and a bit intimidating. I’msosorry. Despite what the discourse coughincelscough would say to the contrary.
I honestly just don’t think about people’s height.
I do prefer a man that’s taller than me but I’m also 5’3” if I stretch first lol so pretty much majority people are taller than me. My husband is 5’10”. I do NOT want a “very tall” man. I think it’s a bit awkward when there’s a big height difference.
I prefer guys who are closer to my height 5’5’’. More than 5’9’’ is too tall for me. I just don’t like big height difference, its just not my type.
When you’re 6ft tall, there aren’t many men much taller.
For me, more of an issue that men don’t usually want to be with a woman taller than them.
I mean, as I’m short, it’s handy if one of us could reach something high but no more than that. My husband is a ft taller than me. I’ve never picked for height one way or the other, but the shorter you are, the more likely there is to be a bigger difference, and that’s about it, really.
Considering it, I think I probably have a mild preference for shorter people, but it’s rarely worked out that way. I prefer people with glasses and my husband doesn’t wear those either.
I’m 5’7” but I live in Minnesota (Nordic peoples country) where everyone is naturally very tall. Height is usually a non-factor for me because in many circles, my 5’7” ass is short.
I was actually very surprised when I went to a bar in Denver and I could literally see over the entire room, like I was freakishly tall.
I do have a height preference but it’s in no way a deal breaker and really not as big of a deal as men make it out to be. Probably worth mentioning that I just kind of like size difference and generally prefer men who are thicker (as a thick girl myself). This is also true with women to an extent, but I find that height preference for me is stronger with men.
I’m 1.6m(5’3″), my boyfriend is 1.9m(6’3″) and I enjoy the difference. He’s built like a rugby player, which is what caught my eye about him in the first place. Thinking about it, the main appeal seems to be that his size makes me feel safe, even though I don’t consider myself physically weak or helpless at all. My brain must on some level be connecting that big, strong man = capable of fending off threats. Also being hugged by a person who is big and soft feels very nice.
The average height difference between Western couples is 4-6 inches. The average height of a US woman is 5’4″. The average height of a US man is 5’9.5″. 5’2″ women wanting 6’2″ men are an anomaly, not the norm. You see just as many couples of equal height or even where the man is shorter.
I’ve never had a preference but have met women for whom anything below 6ft is a dealbreaker.
They were also vain, superficial and overall really toxic and manipulative people.
Not saying all women who have strict height preferences are evil, but they do exist, and short men should feel relieved they dodged these bullets rather than turn their anger on all women.
I know my single friends prefer taller men. But just taller than them, not crazy tall. They’re all fairly tall women at around 5’8″.
My husband is 6’3″ and I’m 5’8″, but I’ve dated men shorter than me as long as they didn’t have a complex about it. My shortest bf loved when I wore heels because then his eyes were at boob level haha
I will never understand why anyone would have a problem with a partner who is close to your height. It’s perfect for kissing and cuddling.
Yes until I met a shorter guy who treated me like a princess and still gave me the piggyback rides I wanted
After that I was like… ok, let’s be Zendaya and Tom, Morticia and Gomez
The older I get, the less I worry about appearances. I suppose at some point it becomes “single man, dates women, can fog a mirror.”
I do and idc
I couldn’t care less.
Most of my male “partners” have been taller than me, but that’s mostly due to me being (quite) short and living in a country full of extremely tall people. Tbh I am so used to being shorter than most people I don’t even register anymore if I have to look up to meet someone’s gaze.
Funny enough, yesterday I looked in the mirror as I stood next to my bf and it dawned on me that I am a lot shorter than he is. We’ve been together for nearly 4 years, I think I just forgot.
I have never felt less attracted to someone for being around the same height as me or a bit shorter. Which has happened plenty of times. However every man that is a lot taller than me has told me their height..unprompted.. I guess it’s more important to them than it is to me.