I’m extremely excited beyond belief. It’s the greatest news I’ve heard ever. We know it’s 2 weeks because we know when it happened and just got a positive test. We have a house and I have a good job.
I’m wondering what I should be doing now? How can I help with morning sickness or whatever comes next? Any general advice?
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Start saving, A LOT. Also make sure she’s not stressing out. Stay ontop of the test, I would probably take another test in 2-3 weeks just to be sure. Tell her to schedule some appointments with her doctor as well.
Pray and be grateful. A precious new life has been gifted to you and your gf💎🌞💎
Be patient and supportive. First trimester is harrrrd. Start reading books about childbirth now. There are so many good ones these days.Â
However, do not focus all your energy on the pregnancy, as important and exciting as it is—also learn as much as you can about the postpartum period, which is CRITICAL. Learn how to support her physical, emotional, and mental health during this time. Be the keeper of boundaries. Be protective of HER. Make sure she SLEEPS in longer chunks (6 hours at least). That means shift splitting. Yes, even if you work. Her sleep is just as important as yours, as is her job of caring for an infant. Postpartum is sacred—She will never, ever, ever forget who treated her poorly during this time.Â
At two weeks you haven’t gotten pregnant yet. You likely mean she’s 4 weeks.Â
There’s really nothing for you to do other than just make sure you start making plans, read a baby book, and start saving.Â
Pray
Get married! 🎉
Congratulations on your beautiful news just take the garbage out scrub the loo
And expect late night run to the supermarket or junk food store for craving runs for your babymoma 🙂 🌷
Make plans for marriage and pray that you got the right girl pregnant.
I assume she is excited as well?
The cycle of pregnancy starts at her last cycle. So two weeks would be more like 4 weeks pregnant.
Be there for her and continue what you’re doing. Congratulations fatherhood isn’t always easy but is a blessing.
Is your girlfriend on prenatal vitamins? They can be pricey but they reduce the risk of miscarriage and neural tube defects. The first trimester can be a bit of an uncertainty, especially when you can’t feel or see the baby (unless you get an ultrasound). It was the most terrifying time of my pregnancy. Every stab of pain when I tensed or if I stretched myself, I panicked about maybe harming the baby.
Make sure your girlfriend takes care of herself, does 30mins of light exercise every day, takes vitamins and eats healthy. If there’s nausea, dry plain biscuits can help or ginger sweets.
See an obstetrician or speak to a midwife as soon as you can to get the best advice for both of you. It’s a wonderful journey, and you both will go through anxiety, stress and excitement. I wish you a wonderful journey.
I’m nearing the end of my pregnancy (37 weeks). It’s had ups and downs. Check on your partner as her hormones will be changing. Her brain will also be rewired for motherhood. Check in on her. There’s always a risk of prenatal depression. You might also need support as your life will change as well. You sound like you’re both gonna be great parents. Take care of each other. Check in regularly. Ask how each other is feeling during the journey. It won’t always be wonderful but at the end the rest of your life will be full of love.
Read some books like “what to expect when you’re expecting” start a high yield savings account and start putting a set deposit in it weekly for the baby. If you have a Costco or a Sam’s club (or something similar) the savings on diapers and wipes alone is enough to cover the membership fees. If you have the funds, I’d recommend couples counseling…pregnancy is hard, but kids are harder every year, and it’s hard on a relationship, even when the relationship is perfect. Discuss things with your partner like how you intend to raise kids, like religion, schooling, where you’d like to live, etc…get on the same page ASAP. Compromise where you can because she will be struggling physically and emotionally. Know that pregnancy gets harder and harder and the last three months are not just uncomfortable for her, her back will hurt, her feet will hurt, and it literally feels like a watermelon is sitting on top of your vagina and bladder, it isn’t just uncomfortable, it’s sometimes painful. Work on mindfulness and being patient and present for your GF and for the baby. I’m so glad you’re happy, congrats!
Stock up on snacks she craves, learn her “absolutely not” food list, and be ready to do more chores than usual. Your job now is hype man + comfort crew until baby shows up.
If she hasn’t already, have her start taking prenatal – that’s #1. And like others have said, start saving.
Don’t stress too much and enjoy the exciting news. Congratulations!!
It is so wonderful to read your post OP! You are not going into this blindly, and you are willing to help. The responses here are great too! I just wanted to say kudos to you and best wishes!
Get married
You slow down and ask what she wants to do.Â
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If you have better health insurance, offer to marry her. The medical bills will be expensive
Be very vocal in how proud of her you are, every facet of her body will feel like it’s changing overnight, she’ll feel like her brain is being rewired second by second and she needs to hear and be shown how incredible you find that. Be her biggest cheerleader and never diminish any symptom she’s having! There’s not much you can do practically early on except be prepared to prepare food if she feels like it. Talk to the baby straight away, she’ll appreciate how connected you are trying to be. I’ve never felt closer to my husband, it’s truly magical and I really hope it works out well for you guys!