I don’t even know where to start.
I had my daughter 3 weeks ago. She’s perfect, but everything else feels like it’s falling apart.
Her dad walked out the night I got home from the hospital. I don’t have parents to lean on my mom passed when I was a teen and my dad’s never been in the picture. It’s literally just me.
The hospital bills are already stacking up, rent is due next week, and I haven’t even bought half the things she needs. I’m running on maybe 3 hours of sleep a night and I’m trying so hard not to break down in front of her.
I applied for WIC and food stamps but it’s taking forever to process. I’ve been looking for anything that could help new moms financially but it’s overwhelming and I feel like I’m running out of time.
If anyone here knows of any kind of assistance or programs that actually help moms in situations like this, please let me know. I’m at the point where even a little relief would mean the world right now.
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Hey I’m 45 F and childless.
I cannot comprehend what you are going through and I’m sorry that the cunt of a man left you the day you had your baby. What fucking scum of a man.
But my mum was a single mum and what I know is she made it work and it fucking sucks that the world put her in that situation.
I don’t have any advice to give to you but I just want to say I believe in you. You can do this. You are a wonderful mother for seeking help and you are going to look back on this post one day and say fuck me I fucking turned that shit around and I made it for me and my child. You are a queen and you can do this.
You should probably state your region at least. That way others may know what help is available.
Hey mama, I’m so sorry you’re going through all this right now. You’re doing way more than most people could handle, and the fact that you’re still pushing through on 3 hours of sleep says a lot about how strong you are. 💛
When I had my first, I was in a similar spot no family support, bills stacking up, and every day felt like survival mode. One thing that helped me bridge the gap while waiting on WIC and food stamps was looking into lesser-known programs that specifically give pregnant/new moms cash or vouchers (some call them “pregnancy stimulus” or “baby bonuses”). They’re separate from WIC and can process much faster.
Just tell me to drop the link actually, you know what, I’ll just share it if you ask. You need the help right now.
You need to find the charity that helps single Moms in your area, type in single mom charity near me and see what programs or assistance they have.
Really you need support and to also meet other Moms so you aren’t alone, make this your support network.
I will never fully understand the storm you’re walking through right now, and I’m so damn sorry that the coward of a man left you on the day you had your baby. That’s not just low that’s underground scum.
My mum was a single mum, and I saw firsthand how hard she fought every single day. It’s not fair, and it’s not right, but I also saw her rise. She made it work.
I don’t have some magic advice to fix this, but I do want you to know I believe in you with my whole heart. You will look back at this one day and say, “Holy hell, I turned that around. I made it for me and my child.” You are a queen, and you’ve got this.
And because I know words don’t change diapers, I want to help in a way that actually lightens the load. I’ve got a diaper gift card for you one less thing to worry about so you can focus on breathing, healing, and loving that little one. Diapers
I don’t know what state you’re in ( or country) but in the United States there’s something called TRUA which is emergency rental assistance for needy families.