Hello 👋🏽
I’m (25F) just looking for some kind words honestly. I met someone who I was with for a short time but I was falling in love hard and fast, until he broke things off because his mental health issues became too much, and he was struggling with anhedonia and he felt it was unfair to me. I told him over and over again that it wasn’t, but he still insisted. We had so much in common and while I didn’t really make the big pushes, I kind of let him (because of some hesitancy I had from previous bad relationships) I saw longevity in our relationship and I just saw us growing together for some time. Maybe not forever but still. Anyways…I’ve been going through a really rough time since. I usually take comfort in reading romance novels, or fantasy, playing video games, etc. I’m struggling to find escape in those things right now because they make me think of him. Fantasy books, and video games because they were a shared interest and we often played games or talked about fantasy everything together, and romance because I can’t imagine anyone but him in the place of the love interest now. I’m just going through it and need kind words. A few months ago I couldn’t imagine my life without him anymore but now I feel like a shell just going through life in autopilot. Even after I’ve started to find joy in hobbies again I can’t get through a day without crying because I miss him and I’m afraid that no one will ever see me the way he did again or make me feel how he did.
I’m sad and scared and I feel like a burden to everyone because I’ve been so sad for over two months now.
Comments
REMINDER: Rules regarding civility and respect are enforced on this subreddit. Hurtful, cruel, rude, disrespectful, or “trolling” comments will be removed (along with any replies to these comments) and the offending party may be banned, at the mods’ discretion, without warning. All commenters should be trying to help and any help should be given in good faith, as if you were the OP’s parent. Also, please keep in mind that requesting or offering private contact (DM, PM, etc) is absolutely not allowed for any reason at all, no exceptions.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
Break ups aren’t easy. But either way a little time, things start making more sense. It’s also important to know: Two people can be right for each other, but if the timing doesn’t work, it’ll fail. This may be the case. It may not. Either way, after some time, it’ll make more sense. In the meantime, find time for YOU. As a gamer myself, Days Gone provides me some comfort. Depending on what I’m going through, the game helps. Could be stress relief, could be that I just want to shoot zombies in the face haha. Talking a walk outside can also help clear your head and provide a sort of meditation. Petting an animal. Focus on just the small things right now. And remember, most importantly, this isn’t your fault, you didn’t cause this, and you’ll be okay. 💙
First… You’re going to be ok.
I know it can be difficult to move on after a breakup.
I understand you really felt connected with your ex.
It’s normal to go through a mourning period. It’s ok.
Trust me, I’ve been through many breakups in my life.
I recently broke up with my fiance of 5 years in January.
The Pain and Turmoil was intense! I literally went through the 5 stages of Grief.
During that time, I Prayed to God, I chose to reach out to friends and family, make NEW friends, discover new hobbies and interests and I’m feeling better than I have in many years.
I cared about each and every boyfriend I ever had. But somehow life goes on. You reconfigure your mindset and your focus changes over time. That’s ok too.
I have found that each failed relationship helped me to learn more about myself and what I need and desire in a partner. It made me stronger as well. These are good things!
Have Faith that it’s for the Best and in time you will see it for yourself. You’ve got this! ❤️