So my MIL and her husband and 2 teens are living with me and my partner(her eldest) because he felt bad that the property she livied on wasnt hers and she criticizes EVERYTHING I do when I parent my 2 boys(17months & 4months) like “your holding them too much” or “you need to stop being so gentle or they will never respect you” and my partner was abused at her hands when he was younger. Recently her favorite thing to says is she’ll send me to an inpatient facility if I don’t “open up and toughen up”. Everytime I discuss this with my partner he just shuts down, but then let’s things go and run rampant. I’m getting emotionally tired and mentally tired. She just won’t listen to nobody. We’ve had soo many issues before hand and now it’s worse. I love and am in love with my partner. Any advice or tips and tricks on how to handle this?
Comments
Quick Rule Reminders:
OP’s needs come first, avoid dramamongering, respect the flair, and don’t be an asshole. If your only advice is to jump straight to NC or divorce, your comment may be subject to removal at moderator discretion.
^(Full Rules) ^(|) ^(Acronym Index) ^(|) ^(Flair Guide)^(|) ^(Report PM Trolls)
Resources: ^(In Crisis?) ^(|) ^(Tips for Protecting Yourself) ^(|) ^(Our Book List) ^(|) ^(Our Wiki)
Welcome to /r/JUSTNOMIL!
I’m botinlaw. I help people follow your posts!
^(To be notified as soon as DID_MommaBear2425 posts an update) [^click ^here.](http://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=botinlaw&subject=Subscribe&message=Subscribe DIDMommaBear2425 JUSTNOMIL) ^(|) ^(For help managing your subscriptions,) [^(click here.)](https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/wiki/index#wiki.2Fu.2Fthejustnobot)
^(I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please) ^(contact the moderators of this subreddit) ^(if you have any questions or concerns.)
I’m not in your shoes and, I have to admit that when I was younger I probably would not have done what I’m about to suggest, but I’m old now and I see things differently.
Sit everyone down and say, clearly & out loud: you are in MY house. I am helping you out. You have NO SAY in how I run this house or how I raise my children. If you are not happy here you are free to go. From this meeting forward you will (list a couple (not a lot) rules). And, going forward, you enforce these. MIL starts with the criticism, stop right there this is not your business. She pulls some stunt, call her out. If possible, give her a timeline to move out.
It’s your life, your house, your family, your show. Run it!