Ex reached out in June on some sleep with me type stuff. I agreed. After I said we should have a conversation about expectations and he said no it was too soon to have any such conversation so we didn’t. Communication through text was spotty and we slept together a few more times. Each time I saw him we did spend some time together that day one time I even spent the night and cuddled. Things were confusing because one day he would be all about me and the next 4 he really didn’t say much to me. I figured things were this way because he was unsure what he wanted and so was I so I didn’t push the issue to have any kind of conversation about anything. He calls me up one night again on some come over and have sex stuff so I agreed and went. Before we did anything he tells me he still loves me and wants to try to be together again. After that asks me if Ive slept with anyone else. I was honest and told him yes I did about 2 or three weeks ago. He lost his mind. Said he couldn’t and wasn’t mad I’d slept with someone else but was mad that I slept with someone else and didn’t volunteer that information on my own and was going to sleep with him without telling him and that was nasty and I lied to him by not volunteering it. Said he no longer wanted to work things out and never wanted to be with me again. He said I should’ve known we were on track to working things out because he spent time with me the the times we had sex and he kissed me when we had sex. He said sleeping with two men in the same month is hoe activity and I had no respect for myself.
I’m crushed and I don’t know what to do.
Just tell me what to do
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TBH shit like this why you should NEVER entertain meeting up with an ex under any circumstances. An ex is an “EX” for a reason.
I’m a man and what he really meant is that if he slept with 2 in the same day, that would be 1 more than you should have in your lifetime
I was in a similar situation years ago, I’m sorry to break it to you but there’s no happy ending here. The inconsistency speaks loud. Keeps you confused, guessing, almost addicted….. this is a very messy / sticky situation. Block him and move on. Even if you didn’t sleep with someone else there still was never going to be a happy ending. Also he is only calling you over for sex…… kissing and saying “I love you” when having sex doesn’t mean your relationship is going to work.
I wasted years sleeping with my ex and holding myself back from truly moving on. He would say “I love you” and so much more. It never went anywhere. Eventually I blocked him, met someone else whom I am now married to. Don’t keep yourself “stuck”