Just told I have 30 days to leave, for no logical reason

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For context, I’m a 19yo guy still at home, and my mom is bi-polar and addicted to weed and shrooms, and just sits at home all day.

For all my life I’ve dealt with her blaming me for almost everything negative about her life, and it doesn’t help that she’s chronically ill on top of it.

Since turning 18 she says that I never contributed to the household or try to put my life together, even though I work full time, pay them $1100 a month for a mixture of a car payment, insurance, and rent/my share of utilities, on top of taking care of her when she gets sick and doing a couple hours of chores a day.

While this goes on my dad, who is the only parent working and doing most of the household work, just follows along with anything she says while refusing to listen to my side of the story.

This has been going on for at least the past 6-8years, but it got to the point where I’m blamed for any issues whatsoever, including the septic system backing up and flooding the only downstairs toilet (there are 3 in total), and for my brothers “poor performance in school”, when he’s actually doing really well.

I’m just tired of being the family scapegoat, and I know that they are going to beg me to come home after I leave. Has anyone else experienced something similar? Any advice? And what could I try to do better? Feel free to ask for more info. It’s hard to get everything down in a single post, and I left a good bit out.

Comments

  1. Neutraali Avatar

    Sounds like they need you more than you need them. Time to get a fresh start somewhere else. Don’t get lured back by their bullshit.

  2. cocopuff7603 Avatar

    Start by looking for an apartment, your best bet is a studio. You will be happy on your own!

  3. wowluna Avatar

    Dude get out. You’re basically paying rent and being a caretaker. Save your money, find some roommates, and start your own life. They’ll probably guilt trip you, but you gotta prioritize your own well being

  4. JulietteBegs Avatar

    It’s awful that you’re giving so much and still being blamed for everything. You don’t deserve that.Reading this, it’s clear you’ve been dealing with way more than anyone your age should have to

  5. SamuelVimesTrained Avatar

    For 1100 a month there`s got to be a place somewhere.
    Maybe with a friend, or roommates – but this sounds like you need to work on getting out of there.

    And – when you do – CLOSE YOUR WALLET FOR THEM.
    I mean, if you`re not doing anything according to them – these payments surely are nothing and will not be missed.. right ?