Why do in laws think they don’t need a relationship with the parents to have one with their kids?
It feels like a ploy because they don’t actually want one with the kids either but it’s another thing they can try to use against us to dodge accountability.
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I agree. Also it’s just fucking weird and makes the whole relationship with the kid seem manipulative. It’s way easier to have a real meaningful conversation and relationship with an adult than a 3 year old, and the truth is that adult is going to be more affected by your actions than the three year old will be this day and age. It makes it all just seem kind of superficial
My dad and his wife (whom I did not allow to see my child) wrote me a letter about he’s sorry he was not a good father, but all he can do now is be a good grandfather and that she would like a chance to be a grandma as if I’m dead and there’s no way to reconcile 💀
Because the kid isn’t our kid… it’s her grandchild. Different level of possession. For ours it never occurred to her she wouldn’t get the relationship SHE wants with HER grandkid. Also she has a history of pushing which ultimately gets her her way. Prior to me, no one pushed back on her so she doesn’t see it coming.