Keeping the relationship alive with F25 and M28

My boyfriend 28 and I (F25) have been together for almost a year and have been living together for almost a year. We’ve been having arguments more frequently about him not doing this or me not doing this and it’s mostly about either household chores or how I’m not there for him when he needs me, yet I am. I don’t do soft love and no honest truth (he wants me to agree with him on everything) and as a strong woman with an adult relationship, I am going to be honest, up front and give it to you how it is. We are constantly arguing.

We seem to have been in a huge “roommate phase” for a long time now with nothing but work and chores between us. We also don’t have sex often, don’t go out, etc but we’re both tired or have been arguing so we don’t do those things.

I don’t know how much longer I can keep doing this unless there’s some change in how we do household tasks or spice things up with outings or our sex life. Our sex is basic and I enjoy it, but I wonder if adding stuff like toys or more moves would benefit that along with more date nights. I’m at a loss between feeling like we’re just roommates and juggling life.

TLDR: me (F25) and partner (M28) feel like we’re in the roommate phase even after a year together; no outings, barely any sex and I want to spice up our time together with sex and dates but feel too tired daily to do such.