Ladies, does it matter to you if your husband makes less money than you?

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I’m just curious from a woman’s perspective how important is a man’s income when it comes to a long-term partnership or marriage? And if it does matter, what would you personally consider “good money” for a husband to make? Not trying to spark debate just looking to understand values and expectations from a sincere place. Thanks in advance to anyone open to sharing.

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  1. kaisii43 Avatar

    It used to not matter to me – it started mattering to me when I realized every man actually cared – they care about making more money than their women and get jealous and feel ‘less of a man’ if they earn less money. So I have decided I am so tired of it – I will never make that mistake again. For men it seems to be so important to be ‘the man’ and earn more and feel more powerful whereas I saw as a couple in different stages of our careers or different careers. Also I saw us as a couple who should help each other and the guy could be ‘the man’ in so many different ways and particularly by being emotionally safe. If you do not feel confident and comfortable with your income – do not date a woman who earns more than you or might earn more than you and show that insecurity.

  2. idkwhatimdoing25 Avatar

    It only matters that our family makes enough to be comfortable. What form that takes or who earns what doesn’t matter to me. Right now I make a fair bit more but he still makes solid money. In the past it’s been reversed. Regardless, it has never impacted our relationship. If I made enough money I’d be happy to let him be a stay at home dad. 

  3. MoodInternational481 Avatar

    Not really. I care that they make enough that they’re comfortable and not struggling, are able to put money in retirement and/or are working towards that goal with an actual plan in place.

  4. whatsmyname81 Avatar

    I’m not into men, but I do find that I’m much happier in relationships where my partner and I have similar income. It just makes everything easier.