For me it’s never made a difference what gender the friend was. I handled it the same way. I thought about why the friendship ended and how it would be good for me in the long run.
I grieve it like I grieve any other friendship/relationship. No matter what went wrong, this person meant a lot to me at one time. I reflect on how many wonderful people came in my life and then left, no matter what “left” means, ie. death, breakup etc. Life is fleeting, and so are the people in it. Appreciate that the flower that blooms, eventually withers and dies. There will be more flowers that bring you joy, even if it isn’t the same joy as this one. Hugs 💕
It’s taken me about 7 months to get past my breakup with a friend last fall. I’ll take most of the blame for the end of things, much related to issues I was unable to resolve. She is a good person and I miss her presence in my life, but I recognize that there are factors that limit our friendship due to the nature of our very different individual lives.
How did I get past my pain? I didn’t, but I was able to lessen it to the background. I looked for posts on reddit that paralleled my experience and wrote reflective responses to process my grief. It helped me to see how I failed her as a friend, but also how I overlooked a number of red flags out of a sense of loneliness and desperation as my ability to find and make friends is very limited. It at least helped me to change my focus and spend more energy on my family and less about actively trying to make friends. Honestly, I’ve all but totally abandoned the concept of friends.
But that’s me and I hope this passes for you in due time. Reflect, refocus, and find your peace.
As someone who unfortunately dealt with two close friendship breakups, they hurt more than my divorce.
In both cases, I sent a text expressing how I felt about the situation that led to the end of our friendship, if I played a role, I took accountability and I always reminded them I love them and will leave lines of communication open.
That helps with the grieving process, and then I just remind myself life goes on and there’s 7 billion people in the world. If you’re a faith believer, I just put my trust in Him and keep it moving. If you’re not a faith believer, find a hobby or join a group activity weekly. Meet new faces.
And just remember, you’re going to be okay. It’s not the end of the world.
Time mostly. For me friendship breakups are harder than relationships and the time is just longer. Women are cruel even today I still hurt from the friends who literally broke my heart, it’s been years and I am just now coming around to making new friends.
My ex bestie and I worked at the same coffee shop so I literally had to see her every day. Changed my shifts joined a book club and focused on making new friends who actually showed up when they said they would.
The same way I’d deal with a friendship breakup if the friend was a man or nonbinary. I would grieve but also try to find other things to spend my time on, like hobbies, investing more time in my remaining friendships, and/or trying to make new friends.
It can be hard, depending on what led to the breakup. Things we did together, or I know they would like, remind me of them. But at least if there was something that happened to end the friendship, it’s easier to focus on that, and by extension I’ll be bitter enough to think about other things I didn’t like about them lol.
It’s harder when there’s no explanation. Then you just have to move on with your new/ remaining friends.
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For me it’s never made a difference what gender the friend was. I handled it the same way. I thought about why the friendship ended and how it would be good for me in the long run.
like with all grief, it takes time. 🤷
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I allow myself to feel grief and I make myself busy. It takes time.
I grieve it like I grieve any other friendship/relationship. No matter what went wrong, this person meant a lot to me at one time. I reflect on how many wonderful people came in my life and then left, no matter what “left” means, ie. death, breakup etc. Life is fleeting, and so are the people in it. Appreciate that the flower that blooms, eventually withers and dies. There will be more flowers that bring you joy, even if it isn’t the same joy as this one. Hugs 💕
A good cry and remember they are not my friend for a reason
It’s taken me about 7 months to get past my breakup with a friend last fall. I’ll take most of the blame for the end of things, much related to issues I was unable to resolve. She is a good person and I miss her presence in my life, but I recognize that there are factors that limit our friendship due to the nature of our very different individual lives.
How did I get past my pain? I didn’t, but I was able to lessen it to the background. I looked for posts on reddit that paralleled my experience and wrote reflective responses to process my grief. It helped me to see how I failed her as a friend, but also how I overlooked a number of red flags out of a sense of loneliness and desperation as my ability to find and make friends is very limited. It at least helped me to change my focus and spend more energy on my family and less about actively trying to make friends. Honestly, I’ve all but totally abandoned the concept of friends.
But that’s me and I hope this passes for you in due time. Reflect, refocus, and find your peace.
As someone who unfortunately dealt with two close friendship breakups, they hurt more than my divorce.
In both cases, I sent a text expressing how I felt about the situation that led to the end of our friendship, if I played a role, I took accountability and I always reminded them I love them and will leave lines of communication open.
That helps with the grieving process, and then I just remind myself life goes on and there’s 7 billion people in the world. If you’re a faith believer, I just put my trust in Him and keep it moving. If you’re not a faith believer, find a hobby or join a group activity weekly. Meet new faces.
And just remember, you’re going to be okay. It’s not the end of the world.
Time mostly. For me friendship breakups are harder than relationships and the time is just longer. Women are cruel even today I still hurt from the friends who literally broke my heart, it’s been years and I am just now coming around to making new friends.
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My ex bestie and I worked at the same coffee shop so I literally had to see her every day. Changed my shifts joined a book club and focused on making new friends who actually showed up when they said they would.
Take time to reconnect with myself because when I lose a friend typically I feel as though I lost a part of myself
Keeping yourself busy. Bettering yourself.
The same way I’d deal with a friendship breakup if the friend was a man or nonbinary. I would grieve but also try to find other things to spend my time on, like hobbies, investing more time in my remaining friendships, and/or trying to make new friends.
It can be hard, depending on what led to the breakup. Things we did together, or I know they would like, remind me of them. But at least if there was something that happened to end the friendship, it’s easier to focus on that, and by extension I’ll be bitter enough to think about other things I didn’t like about them lol.
It’s harder when there’s no explanation. Then you just have to move on with your new/ remaining friends.