Ladies, what red flag do you know your partner has but still ignore for the sake of the relationship?

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Ladies, what red flag do you know your partner has but still ignore for the sake of the relationship?

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  1. Helpful_End3978 Avatar

    None, that’s how you get a healthy relationship. Stop ignoring the red flags please.

  2. Try4se Avatar

    None, don’t ignore red flags.

  3. DimmyMoore70 Avatar

    Um I’ve ignored an incompatibility here and there but never a red flag. 😬

  4. tawny-she-wolf Avatar

    None, that’s why I’m marrying him.

  5. Sweet-District1483 Avatar

    I’m wondering if maybe you meant a minor inconvenience (like a yellow flag) instead of a red flag? Red flags are usually a sign to run away.

  6. Puzzleheaded_Net_759 Avatar

    Currently considering divorce over red flags

  7. mangoserpent Avatar

    I am single for a reason. I aged out of being able to ignore the red flags.

  8. sunshineandcats21 Avatar

    He doesn’t like sushi.

  9. Zelda_Olivia Avatar

    He votes Tory

  10. crabby_apples Avatar

    People have truly forgotten the definition of a red flag

  11. Peregrinebullet Avatar

    …none?   I don’t tolerate any bad behaviour.  

    Penis is low value and high volume.  I don’t have to tolerate anything in order to get any. XD 

    I’m currently married and even when my husband was having a difficult time with his mental health he was still kind, respectful and generous.   

  12. westernmorning2 Avatar

    When I met & married (28f & 24 years ago), I didn’t know about Red Flags. I was incredibly naive. I had a strict Christian/fundamentalist upbringing.

  13. believetobe Avatar

    I ignored red flags before and every single relationship was toxic or abusive. I finally stopped ignoring them, and am finally in a healthy relationship with the love of my life, who has zero red flags.

    Don’t ignore red flags!!!

  14. shrkh94 Avatar

    Back then it would be the promiscuous past of his before me. Because I am not sure if he could pair bond with me and stay loyal until the end.

  15. clairioed Avatar

    He has a helicopter mom & it made him less independent.

  16. ANALINSTIGATOR Avatar

    High key this is minimizing the whole idea of a red flag. It’s not meant to be ignored. Take care of yourself, you deserve it.

  17. LikeATediousArgument Avatar

    He has an avoidant attachment style. I’m anxious.

    We’re both talking about it and working on it from our perspective sides.

    My ex was like that too and it broke me. He wouldn’t talk about it or admit there was anything wrong with it, whereas I know my faults and was constantly trying to work on it alone.

  18. motherdragon02 Avatar

    My husband cheated on his last two wives.

    Yeah. That’s fucking awesome. He’s 50 now – and I’d divorce his ass faster than fuck if he cheated on me.

  19. msstark Avatar

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  20. SweetLemonLollipop Avatar

    His emotional constipation, refusal to communicate, and lashing out when confronted.

    After almost 9 years together, this has all mostly stopped. He’d never been in a healthy relationship, romantic or otherwise, and sort of had to learn from me how to actually face problems in a healthy way… He also has a lot appreciation for me doing this kind of invisible labor and expresses that in his words and actions.

    People can change if you give them space to. But! It is not for everyone… I don’t know if I would have told young me to stay with him even knowing what I know now… because there was a lot of pain getting to this point.

  21. Specialist-Strain502 Avatar

    She will only eat her food with a small spoon of a specific size, shape and weight.

  22. Ok_Caramel_7635 Avatar

    His mother is the red flag… good thing he’s learned to stick to his guns when she forgets her boundaries