Ladies who met their partner through dating apps, what was different about that first date ?
Ladies who met their partner through dating apps, what was different about that first date ?
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Ladies who met their partner through dating apps, what was different about that first date ?
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Back in 2015, when Tinder Premium was so cheap you barely thought twice about it, I matched with a guy who seemed pretty normal — no weird bios or shirtless mirror pics. We chatted a bit and decided to meet at a coffee shop.
When I walked in, I was half expecting awkward small talk, but instead, he was already at the counter, ordering two drinks — guessing mine based on my profile (and somehow getting it right). We ended up chatting for hours, way past when the coffee got cold.
It wasn’t love at first swipe, but it was surprisingly comfortable — like meeting an old friend for the first time. Cheap Tinder Premium definitely paid off that day
i think our first date was 8 hours long or something like that? we just kept talking. i was over until 3 am. we met up again a few days later, and a couple days after that. we just got along.
Before the apps and the creation of Tinder, we met online on OkCupid. Before we ever met in person, he called me every night for a month. I thought he was crazy. After the first two dates I couldn’t get past my nerves and I wasn’t sure if it was right so I put the breaks on. After getting stood up by another guy soon after, I realized I missed his nightly phone calls and realized just how much effort he was putting into me and I took it for granted. We went out again as friends. I had been having a rough day and was feeling a bit lost. I remember thinking this guy is just a stand up guy if he can put his own feelings aside and be just my friend when I needed one. I thought why not really give this a chance and see where it goes. I never imagined we’d still be together 13 years later.
It was so natural and the conversation flowed well. He was asking me questions about myself and we were able to joke around right away. I had a good feeling talking to him before our first date but now 3 years later, it was obviously a success
It was the best date I’d ever been on. I tried to blow him off on his initial offer because I wasn’t taking dating apps seriously at the time. He offered something thoughtful, and I thought “hm I should actually give this man a chance.”
Our first dated ended up lasting over 8 hours, 4 different location changes, talked so long the waiter all but kicked us out of the restaurant. We hung out the next day and the day after that. We’ve been dating for 4.5 years, living together for 3 and will likely get married in the next 2. Best decision I ever made!
OkCupid, 2010. We intended just to meet for coffee but ended up chatting so long it was time for dinner, so we went to the Chinese place next door. At the coffee shop, he bought the drinks saying “you can buy next time,” and felt bad it ended up being the dinner a few hours later. 😀
We didn’t have sex, which was unusual because I was using Tinder for hookups. We just laughed the whole time and neither of us wanted to part ways after the evening had ended.
I remember driving home and I was just thinking oh shit, I think my life is about to change.
He had a horrible profile tbh, I swiped on him because he had very pretty eyes but he had a recent awkward selfie for his first pic and then two old pictures of him before he lost 50 pounds and cut like 10 inches off his hair, so I didn’t fully know what he looked like I just guessed it was the first pic.
We matched and his first message was calling me gorgeous. We had pretty great conversation and he asked me out the next day, then on our date he walked in and I realized this was the most attractive man I have ever gone on a date with, I felt an instant connection. And our conversation was easy, without being too awkward. Overall it was amazing and we definitely went on a second one, we’ve been dating about 8 months now.
Okcupid, 2014. The conversations were different: it felt like he wanted to get to know me as a person rather than just the usual dating interview/checklist it felt like with other guys.
It wasn’t the first date. It was the conversations leading up to it. He was so respectful, didn’t send those pictures. He just wanted to get to know me. He didn’t pressure to meet up. we became friends online first.
Conversation flowed great not only on the first date but also after. The interest he showed from the get-go was also without question. He asked me if I was free the following weekend at the end of the first date and at that point we already got into a routine of two dates a week till making things official a month or so later.
I’m pretty introverted and not great at small talk. I immediately felt comfortable with him and never ran out of things to talk about. Our first date lasted several hours. We’ve been together 15.5 years now, married for 10. Still have plenty to talk about, but we’re great at sitting in companiable silence like we are right now.