I’m 23F and recently matched with a really great guy (29M) on Tinder. He’s honestly everything I’m looking for — funny, attractive, successful, kind — and his profile even said he’s looking for something long-term. We’ve been texting for about six days now and it’s been fun and flirty, but… he hasn’t asked me out yet.
One thing I’ve noticed is that during weekdays, he only messages me after 10pm. I KNOW that’s probably a red flag, but he owns a successful business and he is really busy, so I’ve been trying not to jump to conclusions. Still, it makes me wonder how serious he is.
The late texts are not sexual in nature.
I really like him — like I get genuinely happy when he messages me — but I don’t want to waste time either. I want a serious relationship and ideally hope to be engaged or married by 27. I’m not trying to rush this, I just want to be intentional.
Is there anything I can do to encourage him to actually make a move and ask me out? Or should I just ask myself if this energy is even worth it? I know I might sound naive, but I just want some honest perspective.
Thanks
TL;DR:
Matched with a great guy on Tinder (he’s 29, I’m 23). He says he wants something long-term, we’ve been texting for 6 days but he hasn’t asked me out yet. Only messages after 10pm on weekdays. I like him a lot but don’t want to waste time — how do I encourage him to take the next step, or is it a waste of time?
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Ask him if he meant a long term texting
You can be direct. Just ask if he would like to go out and meet. Nothing to lose right. If he doesn’t engage then it’s best to move on.