I (34F) am part of a friend group of three couples. Most of us have known each other for over a decade. One couple (32F and 35M) are getting married in December. The guy has chosen my husband and the other married guy as groomsmen. The gal (whom we’ve been friends with for about five years) has chosen the other married woman friend as one of her bridesmaids but not me. So five out of six of us are in this wedding, except me. Kind of awkward right? Some background, my husband and I live in a neighboring state about three hours away from the other two couples. The logic is (told to me) that I live too far away to be a bridesmaid. My husband is able to be a groomsman because his duties just require one tux fitting. I’ve never been a bridesmaid so I don’t know what all it entails beyond a dress fitting. Can brides tell me how normal this is? I got married ten years ago and did not have bridesmaids (small wedding) and have never been asked to be one either, so I don’t know “the rules” and if I should interpret this as a slight or not. The bride did not explain any of this to me, I had to hear it from a friend. Oh and our ten year old son is not invited as it’s a kid free wedding (fair enough) so am I just going to be sitting alone the whole time? I would never argue to her about this because it’s her day and it’s not my place to cause drama or stress, IMO. That’s the last thing I wanted when I was a bride. But I can’t help but feel a little down.
TL;DR I’m the only one of our friend group of three couples not in an upcoming wedding party and I feel awkward.
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They probably had limits and family trumps friends. It sucks, but it’s probably not out of hate it’s more then likely they had to make cuts and you didn’t make the final one over some cousin from Florida they barely talk to but whom Mom said they had to invite.
Ima be honest…you gotta let this one go. you’ve only known the bride 5 years, you don’t live by them, and you expected to be in the wedding?
Do you have to go the wedding? You could stay home with your kid and do something fun. As it is you would have to pay for a babysitter.
Are you close to the woman getting married? Is the woman she asked to be a bridesmaid closer to her? I’m assuming you have a more casual relationship/see her less often because you live 3 hours away.
Take it as a blessing. Now you can show up and enjoy the party with no responsibilities.